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AIBU Flowers At Work?

174 replies

BlueNeighbourhood1 · 22/12/2017 09:35

Hello,

I've posted about this nightmare woman at work before and things had calmed down, I stayed out of her way, put my headphones in when the noise was too much and finally finished for Christmas on Tuesday.

Yesterday some flowers, chocolates and a card arrived for me at work from one of the sites I work with. My friend (who works with us both) text and emailed me pictures of everything and I saw it this morning, messaged her and said it's so lovely and I'd drop in and collect them today.

The other woman has taken the flowers home for herself! I'm so angry, friend has called this morning and said sorry as she was there but didn't stop her. She knew that as soon as I had seen the messages I'd come and collect them.

AIBU to be absolutely pissed off my gift has gone to someone else?!

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Hisnamesblaine · 22/12/2017 09:36

Cheeky bint

ijustwannadance · 22/12/2017 09:37

Do you have a contact number for her?
Tell the cheeky bitch it's theft and to either bring back in or replace.

CrackersForlt · 22/12/2017 09:38

Omg how dare she! Cheeky fuckery of the highest order. Even if she wasn't sure that you'd come to collect them, she needed to give you the chance.

apacketofcrisps · 22/12/2017 09:38

I would contact her copying in a senior if possible and say you've taken my flowers home please return them they don't belong to you.

HermionesRightHook · 22/12/2017 09:38

That's theft, surely. Too late to get her to bring them back I guess but tell her and tell her manager and tell the person who sent them to you.

Business contact sent them and not a friend I hope? Even so that's thieving.

CurryWorst · 22/12/2017 09:38

Do you have her number? If so, text her and say something like "it was so kind of you to offer to deliver my flowers etc to me, when will I expect you?"

She'll have to give them to you or admit in writing she stole them. Which in many jobs would be a fireable offence.

Redsippycup · 22/12/2017 09:40

What?! She can't do that! I'd be telling her to give them back and telling her boss / he what she has done.

CF indeed!

Redsippycup · 22/12/2017 09:40

HR not he!

Tistheseason17 · 22/12/2017 09:43

What currywurst says

gamerwidow · 22/12/2017 09:43

Text her and tell her thanks for taking them home to make sure they wasn’t binned I’ll be round later to collect them. It’s theft pure and simple don’t let her get away with it.

iBiscuit · 22/12/2017 09:44

Wow! Shock

Maybe if they were still there this afternoon at home time, if nobody could stop by yours to deliver them, that would be ok. But to just assume is quite astonishing.

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BlueNeighbourhood1 · 22/12/2017 09:45

We work in such a small team that it honestly isn't worth the aggro. The office is tiny and we all work in such close proximity to each other, but I'll be making our manager aware when I return from holiday.

I'm quite close to one of the girls in HR and my little sister is a HR Manager so I'll have a word with her and see what she suggests

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BlueNeighbourhood1 · 22/12/2017 09:47

iBiscuit - she finished for her Christmas holiday yesterday lunchtime so wouldn't have even waited the full day for me to collect them

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Ragwort · 22/12/2017 09:50

Was it definetely a personal gift or something from a supplier that the other person felt should have been shared out? Not agreeing that it should have been taken by someone else but many companies prefer to 'share' suppliers' presents.

You could always remind her of the tax implications of accepting gifts at work Grin.

buckbeak · 22/12/2017 09:51

@BlueNeighbourhood1 I understand that it's a small team, and you obviously don't want to cause problems, but you can't let her get away with this, just message her and ask if you can pick your flowers up from her, and thanks for looking after them.

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BlueNeighbourhood1 · 22/12/2017 09:53

No,

The gift said

To BlueNeighbourhood1

Thank you for all your help and support these past few months

insert in joke that only me and the manager know about

Manager and the team

So definitely addressed to me and the card was opened to see that as I've seen the pictures

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StrawBasket · 22/12/2017 09:59

That's theft, whichever way you look at it. You don't take a supplier's gift home unless it's personally addressed to you - and would be wasted in the office. Taking a private gift? Do report. I cannot see how she could have done that by mistake.

NoFucksImAQueen · 22/12/2017 10:01

I bet money she'll try and say she took them because you'd already broken up forChristmas and the flowers wouldn't last till January. So fucking cheeky

SandyDenny · 22/12/2017 10:02

Tricky in a small team but I wouldnt want her to get away with it. Could you email from your work email address to keep it official and say that you know she took the flowers and don't want to be put in a position where you have to lie to the person who sent them when they ask how you liked them.

Does she have form for this type of thing?

BewareOfDragons · 22/12/2017 10:04

I would have someone contact her and make her bring them back in immediately.

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BlueNeighbourhood1 · 22/12/2017 10:05

She did say she took them because I wouldn't be back before Christmas, but I wasn't even given an opportunity to collect as about two hours after they were delivered she took them home.

I can understand but she didnt email or text me, the other girl did. So in reality this woman didn't even try to tell me they were there.

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happypoobum · 22/12/2017 10:05

I don't understand what the small team has got to do with it? She has stolen something from you - that is not OK whether small or large team.

I am pretty sure your employer has a policy that says theft is gross misconduct and sackable.

I would ask call police and complain to manager about a colleague stealing my possessions from the workplace.

Fairenuff · 22/12/2017 10:05

friend has called this morning and said sorry as she was there but didn't stop her

Why didn't your friend just say, 'I've messaged Blue and she's coming in to pick up the flowers so don't take them'. Seems like an obvious thing to me.

Confused
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BlueNeighbourhood1 · 22/12/2017 10:06

I can guarantee this woman will literally see nothing wrong with what she has done at all. She will think it's perfectly acceptable

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Viviennemary · 22/12/2017 10:06

I'd report to HR. It's theft.