WIBU to make a house guest get up!?

[crisscrosscranky]

I have my niece staying with me over Xmas; she's Canadian but currently working in Barcelona my mother invited her to stay at my house. Due to weird family dynamics she's actually a few years older than me; she's just turned 31 (relevant I think). She's been here for a week now and is staying until 8th January. She's driving me mad.

I'm trying to get house, 2 kids, fridge and myself ready for Xmas and DH will be working until Xmas eve.

She gets up around 11am every morning, makes herself breakfast just before I am making lunch and leaves the kitchen in a state, gets dressed around 1pm and then just sits and watches telly unless I suggest we go out (together- she doesn't go alone!). She doesn't offer to cook, whizz the hoover round, watch the kids for me, wash up... it's like having a third child teenager living with us. So as not to drop feed it's made worse by the fact she's a vegan and is expecting me to either make a separate dinner or we all eat vegan.

Anyway, my AIBU- WIBU to tell her she needs to be up, dressed and breakfasted by 10? Xmas is our family time and she's ruining it for me by giving me more to do than I need; even DD1 (11) is getting irritated by it!?

I'm seriously considering sending her to my mother's.

31??? Sounds more like a teenager. Yes, ship her off to your mother, or that's not possible sit her down for a little talk ... list of chores, directions to shop where she can buy food to prepare her own meals etc. How do you get to 31 while being such an entitled idiot?

I have a 70 year old aunt that's just like this 31 year old.

The more I’m on MN, the more I have to wonder about how people just can’t seem able to stand up for themselves about the simplest of things. I mean...how hard is it to tell (not ask...tell!!) an uninvited house guest that whilst you are ok with them staying in the spare room for the duration, they need to buy/prepare their own food (and other consumables) and clean up their own mess! Just tell her!!! No more cooking from you, or buying special food, or cleaning up after her!! Jeez! She’s not a child, she’s an adult and you are enabling her! Stop.

"We're having sausages and chips tonight- You'll have to make your self something"

"I've just tidied the kitchen/bathroom/whateverroom. Make sure you tidy up after yourself please"

"Can you just come and clear up/put away x which you've not done." Tinkley laugh. *It feels like I've got another teenager to nag into keeping the place tidy" Tinkley laugh.

Boundaries dear. Boundaries.

"mickeysminnie

She can share a room with your db's girlfriend"
Or in fact with the ops mum who invited her