To think my sister is being a cheeky fucker?

[Cheekyeffingsister]

We have a family whatsapp group and a few weeks ago we all put lists of present ideas for ourselves/our dcs and everyone said what they would get to avoid duplicates.

Dsis sent hers over, ‘does she think we’re all minted’ says dp whilst looking at her list. Nothing under £75 for her or her dp/DCs. We’re not well off by any means (her present is more than what I’ve spent on my own child) but she had called me and said ‘oh I couldn’t find what you wanted but saw some beautiful things you’ll love while in House of Fraser so got you and dp a £150 voucher towards them’ so based on that I felt I had to get her the pricey presents as couldn’t believe she’d spent so much! (Our presents we sent we’re all under £20)

Now 5 days before Christmas she has sent a message to the group whatsapp ‘Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minuite so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x’

AIBU to think she’s a cheeky fucker? I know I’ll get called grabby and you don’t give to receive etc but to me it seems she’s sent us all pricey things, acting like she’s doing the same then waited until everyone will have bought things to say actually she’s not getting us anything!

I’m more pissed off that she said she’d get one of the things on DDs list and now i can’t find it to arrive before Xmas.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing.

she sounds mentally unwell.

Take back whatever you have bought her and get the refund.

Not so much cheeky but calculated?

Yeah that's cheeky.

Honestly in that case I'd return as many of the pricy gifts as you can.

Just reply saying ok in that case let's not exchange presents this year if your family is struggling.

But token gifts for your nephews if you want to!

Just reply and say “no problem, doing no presents is fine with us too”

Then take back everything and put the money towards your own children

Take her gift back ASAP. DO NOT give it to her under any circumstances.
And remember cards only next year.
Maybe a Mner will have patented a :
MERRY CHRISTMAS YOU CHEEKY FUCKER!

card by then!

Get a refund for her gift and send a message saying you’re in the same boat! Just buy for your parents.

I'd be livid! How rude. I'd write back saying "that's a shame, don't worry we don't have to exchange any gifts this year" and take everything back. Don't give them anything!

Take her present back for a refund cheeky fucker that she is!

I think I would be tempted to send a message back along the lines of
“Phew! What a relief, we are also struggling and I was in a bit of a panic about the escalating costs. We have got a small something for your DC but other than that we think the no presents idea is great. See you Sunday, looking forward to catching up”
Then I’d promptly return the expensive gifts you’ve purchased! Much less financial stress all round

Get refunds asap

Do not give her anything.

Cheeky fucker indeed! take the stuff back today & get your money back, then buy a tocken gift for her children/ child and tell sis that next yea it will be cards only!

Wow. But she said she'd already bought you a voucher! Tell her that's fine, you haven't bought their presents yet either so ok to leave it. Just get the kids some chocolates or something cheap. b and m genuinely have some cool kids toys for cheap!!

I’m with everyone else - take back the presents.

Just don’t give her your presents and if it’s mentioned say ‘oh but you said we weren’t doing presents this year because of the xbox’

Another vote here for returning whatever you’ve bought for them.
And maybe post what your dd wants and see if MN can locate it for you?

I know you've bought then already,but dont tell her that!

Agree, do not give her the gifts, return and use the cash/credit for your kids. I cannot fathom her thinking on this. Unbelievable.

She is either a psychopath or completely made up.

Yes she is being a cf to the extreme. I agree with everyone else, return her gifts and give her nothing.

Return her gifts or use them yourself. Do not buy her presents again.

We’ve done it well this - no present for half of the family as we’re all going away together for a mini break next summer.

Hoping this can spill over into just doing bits for the kids next Christmas. It’s such a waste of money.

Yes return your presents and message back ‘no presents is fine with us, saves us some money too’

I wouldn't tell her in advance that you're not getting anything for her. Just don't give her anything and because she is a CF, she'll ask where her present is. Then as a pp says, just say "oh we're not doing presents remember, because of the X box" and you'll get to enjoy the reaction too, when her CF plan didn't work out for her.

agree, total no-brainer - gift back to the shop, if for some reason it's not refundable, get store credit for yourself. I would donate it to a goodwill mission before I gave it to the CF.

Not doing presents means you don't give and you don't receive..