To think my sister is being a cheeky fucker?

[Cheekyeffingsister]

We have a family whatsapp group and a few weeks ago we all put lists of present ideas for ourselves/our dcs and everyone said what they would get to avoid duplicates.

Dsis sent hers over, ‘does she think we’re all minted’ says dp whilst looking at her list. Nothing under £75 for her or her dp/DCs. We’re not well off by any means (her present is more than what I’ve spent on my own child) but she had called me and said ‘oh I couldn’t find what you wanted but saw some beautiful things you’ll love while in House of Fraser so got you and dp a £150 voucher towards them’ so based on that I felt I had to get her the pricey presents as couldn’t believe she’d spent so much! (Our presents we sent we’re all under £20)

Now 5 days before Christmas she has sent a message to the group whatsapp ‘Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minuite so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x’

AIBU to think she’s a cheeky fucker? I know I’ll get called grabby and you don’t give to receive etc but to me it seems she’s sent us all pricey things, acting like she’s doing the same then waited until everyone will have bought things to say actually she’s not getting us anything!

I’m more pissed off that she said she’d get one of the things on DDs list and now i can’t find it to arrive before Xmas.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing.

Wow.

"no presents is fine by us too"

Return the gifts and keep it that way in years to come too.

Absolutely take the gifts back and get for your nephews at a price range you're more comfortable at and present it as a token present. (Not fair for the kids to lose out)

So she lied about the £150 voucher? If so, she's conniving, not disorganised, and I'd give her nothing.

So is she giving you the voucher she said she'd bought, or not? I'm assuming not?

Take the gifts you got back and just say we aren't doing them either.

Just reply to her:

“That’s great! Was hoping to reduce costs this year so we’ll not buy for you guys either. Thanks for suggesting this.”

Now you’ve thanked her it’s harder for her to back track as it’s as if it was her idea.

DO NOT GIVE HER GIFTS!

"Oh that's saved me a job, haven't done my Christmas shopping yet so we are also fine not to do gifts either this year"

CF indeed.

We created some present rules for family eventually.

We buy at Christmas for siblings and nieces and nephews till they are 18, then just send good wishes/cards. Birthday presents also not bought for siblings or adult nephews and nieces.

I do however usually send my siblings a plant or some wine/chocs to contribute to their Christmas festivities.

You need to set some ground rules then everyone knows where they are.

What is she planning on doing with your gift voucher, then?

What would happen if you said hold on I thought you already got me a voucher?

Though her telling you specifically that she had bought you a £150 gift voucher, not just a "gift voucher" (as most normal people would do) definitely makes me think she engineered the situation for you to feel obliged to buy the expensive gifts on her list

Return her presents.

I agree with everyone above and even if she knows you have her gifts already then just say 'I didn't want to embarrass you so I returned them'. I would then say 'you know what christmas is so expensive especially when you have l ds so it's best we stop given presents from now on '. She has some nerve!!!

WOW.

She is a really dishonest little fucker.

Ok you need to nip this once and for all.

Take back her present for sure - but even if you can't, do not under any circumstances give it to her.

Also, do not give presents to her children. DO NOT cave in as 'it's for the kids' sake' - that's what she's counting on. Even if you already have presents TAKE THEM BACK. Get selection boxes for her DC.

Text back - 'Oh that's a shame but we totally understnad. We'll probably still give your DC something, just a selection box of something as we'd still like to give them a wee token.'

See what she says to that as I bet she is expecting the presents she asked for.

Cheeky cow - how awful.

Especially when you have kids!!!

I would take this opportunity to knock this behaviour on it's head and say "I agree, lets just do cards this year and from here forward" and stick to it.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing

Then never get involved with this kind of set up again with her

Lol @ the pathetic excuse of a "last minute Xbox"

Thanks all, she has always been this way. The gift voucher will not have existed, I don’t know if it’s worth getting spun into her web of lies questioning her about it.
DP text me saying ‘Well, that chandelier will look lovely in our hallway.’ So think he’s firmly in the camp of not giving her the gifts too! I will still give my DN’s there’s though.

I think the ideas of not buying for adults is a good one for next year, if they have kids to buy for instead.

My lovely nan has also called me and is going to check out the toy shops near her today to try and get my DD’s gift too.

She never fails to disappoint, Every time we think she’s getting on track, she pulls stunts like this!

Wow. Definitely a CF. How are you doing to react OP? I agree that I’d return/keep/regift/ebay her presents.

She sounds batshit. Definitely don't give her the gifts. Did she really ask for a chandelier??

I will still give my DN’s there’s though.

• really? I agree with not punishing the kids for her behaviour, but you got cheated into buying more lavish gifts for them than you had planned, so she still comes out on top. I would return the expensive gifts and get something more modest, as originally intended.

Don’t give her children the expensive gifts, it’s her fault they’ll miss out.

Well done you.
I would have ignored her expensive list and gone off piste for gifts.