To think my sister is being a cheeky fucker?

[Cheekyeffingsister]

We have a family whatsapp group and a few weeks ago we all put lists of present ideas for ourselves/our dcs and everyone said what they would get to avoid duplicates.

Dsis sent hers over, ‘does she think we’re all minted’ says dp whilst looking at her list. Nothing under £75 for her or her dp/DCs. We’re not well off by any means (her present is more than what I’ve spent on my own child) but she had called me and said ‘oh I couldn’t find what you wanted but saw some beautiful things you’ll love while in House of Fraser so got you and dp a £150 voucher towards them’ so based on that I felt I had to get her the pricey presents as couldn’t believe she’d spent so much! (Our presents we sent we’re all under £20)

Now 5 days before Christmas she has sent a message to the group whatsapp ‘Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minuite so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x’

AIBU to think she’s a cheeky fucker? I know I’ll get called grabby and you don’t give to receive etc but to me it seems she’s sent us all pricey things, acting like she’s doing the same then waited until everyone will have bought things to say actually she’s not getting us anything!

I’m more pissed off that she said she’d get one of the things on DDs list and now i can’t find it to arrive before Xmas.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing.

I think I'd return everything and buy a game all the kids can play together, twister or the like.
I think it would be unfair to exclude the nieces completely and I think it equally unfair that your children haven't been bothered with at all.
I most certainly wouldn't be giving CFsis anything at all.

My family just buys for the kids now. So much easier, cheaper and less stressful. The older kids love vouchers as they get to choose their own gifts. My youngest loves Amazon vouchers. That's not a hint by the way OP 😆

I vote for combining Aaah's and Ijust's ideas. No sense in letting awkwardness develop between the cousins.

I will still give my DN’s there’s though

Which she probably knows. Return them and buy something much cheaper and more appropriate.

I would be fuming! Take her presents back and get a refund. Cheeky is putting it politely!!

ShirleyPhallus hit the nail on the head:

'Just reply and say “no problem, doing no presents is fine with us too”

Then take back everything and put the money towards your own children'

Can't say fairer than that can you? My sister is a grasping shit. Her kids are more than 15 years older than mine (i.e. in their 20's FFS) but if I 'just' send them a birthday card she actually texts me to complain there is no cash in the card!!! I've started doing it now just to wind her up. How grasping is it possible to be?????????????

Just spend the £20 on her kids you were going to spend anyway, return their £75 gifts and spend all that on your kids instead.

Take all the gifts back and buy something cheaper for your DN

Is there any chance; she didn't get her own kids presents.And will pass yours off as her own.

However bad you feel not giving her kids them present.Just think how your own DC will feel in that situation.

@sallythesheep73 if I 'just' send them a birthday card she actually texts me to complain there is no cash in the card!

I'm gobsmacked.

fucking cheeky. return everything and just buy little things for her kids. that's really awful behaviour. i wouldn't be able to stop myself having little digs: 'here are the pigs in blankets dsis - loads of them! oops wait - let me just give the kids some.... - oh dear! none left for you! never mind'

Am I the only one who thinks she's just trying to keep up appearances is now struggling.

I bet she feels well shit.

You couldn't make this up, could you?

Unbelievable.

Cheeky cow! I’d definitely return the gifts and get your DNs a token. She’s done this deliberately by the sounds of it.

Collaborate - I wouldnt believe it if I havent seen it with my own eyes.. I dread the whole thing now...

Return all of the presents, buy cheaper gifts for DNs in accordance with your normal budget. Your DSis is exploiting your good nature to gift grab for her own children - the lies about the "voucher" were just to sucker you in to buying expensive gifts for her family

Your DC will feel really left out when they see their cousins opening lavish gifts from your family, plus opening their X-boxes from their parents while they only get modest gifts

She's definitely a cheeky Fucker. There's no way I'd give her the gift.

I think Christmas presents get out of hand. I don't understand why anyone would buy a gift they can't really afford, just because they felt they had to. Unless you're very wealthy, it's ridiculous. In future I would buy for children only, within a set budget and up to an age limit.

I agree you should not give DNs the expensive gifts you have bought when your own children won't be receiving anything. Just buy them all a selection box or something.

I really dont understand why you would consider giving dn gifts when she is not worried about your dc having them. Its simple no gifts this year her idea.

Your sis gets away with this behaviour because you let her. Woman up op.

No way would I be giving her children gifts even if I’d bought them already.

Refunds all the way my sweet and put it towards your own DC and never get conned again. Materialistic madam deserves nothing. Only upside is she let you know before you passed over any presents.

I would probably return dns gift and buy something cheaper. 75 pounds a gift is too much if other family members are also buying as well.

What a cheeky fucker she is plus a liar !!!

Return all her families pressies to the shop - full refund on everything