AIBU to hate the *adults don't need presents* brigade?

[Travis1]

Just that really? Hates probably a strong word but seriously dislike. Keep seeing it spouted on here continually but if adults don't need presents then on Christmas morning it's just me, DH and the cats staring at each other. When everyone else is out shopping for their little darlings barren old me will have 2 nieces and 1 nephew to buy for. Nothing else.

TTC 8 years so if it's not bad enough that I can't actually have kids now I can't have presents either? Feck off!

Why do people want to make others feel guilty for wanting to exchange gifts with the ones they love and to celebrate? Why shouldn't I buy my DH nice things and vice versa? Why shouldn't I buy MIL her favourite perfume that she wouldn't normally buy herself because of cost? Or my aunt tickets to a singer she's desperate to see?

Is it just martyrdom? Do these people actually not buy for anyone other than the children?!

This has given me inexplicable rage this morning

don’t force your non gift giving on adults who enjoy them

I'm confused, does this mean that you think it's ok to demand gifts from people who don't wish to take part in gifting - just because you enjoy gifts?

Actually, I think it can be selfish and miserable to be a gift-hater, if you have family members who enjoy giving and recieving stuff at Christmas. Especially if you bore on about how people are so 'materialistic' and 'greedy' with the implication that you are so much better than your family.
There are also a lot of threads from people whose DP/DH pontificates about materialism and not needing anything - then delegates present buying for his family to his female partner, but buys nothing for her and mocks her for even suggesting that she would like a small gift at Christmas.

@ReanimatedSGB that is about some people being utter twats and nothing to do with people not wanting gifts.

i don't want gifts. For those who have want gifts - I buy them.

We don't buy for adults in our family (except between myself and my husband) but we used to buy for each others kids. My sister in law would buy for my kids but she doesn't have any kids herself so I always bought presents for her husband and herself. I did this for anyone who bought my kids presents but who didn't have kids themselves, if they went on to have children i then bought for their kids instead. If they only had the one then I would spend extra on that's child s present. It's only fair