To be angry at photos at Nativity?

[MrsAnamCara]

Just seen DC infant nativity. We were sent out letters, went to the office yo get tickets, had texts to remind people-all fine and well. No mention of needing permission to take photos/videos. Nothing mentioned before the start of the actual nativity performance either. The performance starts and several people whip their phones out and begin taking photos and videos but not of individual children, of all of the children on stage. It goes on throughout the performance and I can see in their view finder they are filming/recording video of 5+ children... A parent the right if the school Hall is stood filming the entire performance.

No one said they weren't allowed to but...neither was the guardian or parent of every single child asked either.

In my D's nursery, they asked for written permission, and if only one parent didn't give permission then no one was allowed to take photos or videos. Even if we were allowed, then it was photos and videos of your child only (zoom in) and if there were other children then you couldn't post it on social media and send to anyone else.

It really ruined the performance for me, as I don't know these people who are taking videos/photos of my child, I don't know where they will post them or send them to, I don't know who will see that photo or video. I did not give anyone permission to take his photo or record him?

I'm I being unreasonable to think the school should have asked for legal written permission for all children's parents or guardian's? And if some parents don't agree or give permission then that's too bad.

Even if they shared on their FB account, no-one is going to even watch it or look at the pictures - at best you’ll get a few hearts and people cooing pretending they’ve watched it!

That's the most nonsensical argument ever. If no-one is actually watching it, why on earth are you sharing it to social media

Act with a modicum of restraint and don't share things with other people's children on to social media.

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My local paper printed a 6 page supplement of all the local schools nativity photos. The whole region can now see all the kids, not just the parents in the audience.

My local paper printed a 6 page supplement of all the local schools nativity photos. The whole region can now see all the kids, not just the parents in the audience.

Buttercup Let me assure you they will have removed children first who do not have consent for photos in the media. My DD on more than one occasion acted as 'photographers assistant'.

Absolutely agree with Teen. Every member of school staff knows who does not have photograph permission, so removing children from this type of 'staged' photograph is a slick and well-organised process.

Driveninsanebythehubby Please RTFT. Your post is naive at best and to many, such as parents (like me) of an adopted child in serious danger if he's ever pictured in an identifiable location, your post if incredibly offensive and actually quite frightening. I know our situation is far from a one off: there are six families in similar situations in the school where I teach.

Chimera Brilliant post. Thank you! I am sure I am not the only adoptive parent who was grateful for you to explaining with such clarity the trauma our children continue to suffer.

Persian The world needs more people like you. Thank you for listening and understanding.

Yes we have to be careful - but let’s not get so paranoid that we lose the chance to capture the memories to share

Let’s not get so paranoid about capturing memories to share that we lose the chance to protect a child from harm.

People really aren’t getting that “harm” doesn’t mean auntie susan who you are nc with finding out which school your child goes to. It’s real, physical beatings, rape, mental torture...stuff of nightmares.

Persian The world needs more people like you. Thank you for listening and understanding
Thank you, this whole thread has really opened my eyes to something that I knew nothing about before.

I thought that I was quite a worldly person and understood a lot about the sort of problems people can face today.

I am ashamed to admit that I had no idea of the lengths some families have to go to just to protect their kids and ensure that they have the sort of lives that the rest of us take for granted.

I’m a teacher and we get parents to sign off what they are happy for Us to do with photos in school. We do ask parents not to share on social media and they have signed a form saying they won’t. Doesn’t mean they do as they’ve been told. PEople have always taken photos but from when we were young they are stuck in some dusty photo album never to see the light of day. I don’t post pics of my kid on social media and my friends know this. We don’t know what the future holds for our young folk. But make your feelings known to the school and ask to see a copy of their policy.