Absolutely fuming.... Anyone awake?

[hullahoops]

So here's a bit of back story, partner and I have just moved into a new house, expecting a baby in March, money is tight and I have been suffering with depression.

I only told him last week that I felt "depressed" and went to docs etc. He told me he'd be supportive blah blah blah.

So tonight, I get in from work to be greeted by him in his best clothes telling me he's going out for Chinese with the boys and he might be (and I quote) "a bit late"

So anyway, for someone being really supportive about the way I've been feeling lately, he's not text me all night. (He knows I'm home alone) I fell asleep there from about 10pm-1.30am woke up and was surprised not to find him at home (doesn't usually stay out past 12/12.30 During the week) well my concern now is.... It's after 4am, all the pubs closed at 2am, his phone is off. Am I right to think he's an absolute selfish bastard? I'm working at 7am.... Sitting at home worrying myself sick?

There’s billions of threads like this Flouncy. It’s not unheard of that some men are just selfish twats you know.

Whose mum comes over at 5am?!

Why are most men such complete fucking twats?

Not most, just some.

Hopefully he's home and OP is getting some sleep now

I hope he's back and you've given him hell op!
My dsis and mum would both potentially be up in the night, and would text if they'd seen I'd been on WhatsApp etc in the middle of the night as it's unusual. Otoh I wouldn't if I saw they'd been online at 3am as it's normal for them!

Just to weigh in, if the OP works at 7am she's probably not going to reply for the next 8 or so hours, it doesn't necessarily mean she's a troll? Just report it if you think she is.

And FWIW my mum would come over at 5am if I asked her to.

I also wondered if he was shagging someone. If he was in an accident then the police would contact the OP. I bet he says "I was drunk, so slept at a mate's house and my phone died". Then he'll spend the whole day in bed feeling sorry for himself with a hangover.

Blimey there are a lot of entitled man child types around. Hope you’re okay op

Whose mum comes over at 5am?

Ones that are concerned about the welfare of their pregnant daughters?

Hope you're ok OP and he's back home x

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Oh really nanny, pearl clutching much?! Her OH stayed out, she's perfectly fine at home. A phone call, sure, but to rush round there?! Ridiculous.

Very dramatic thread!

Whose mum comes over at 5am?!

My mum would never have done this either but many do.

OP - I hope he is home now sleeping it off. Yes, it was selfish of him not to text & let you know where he was or that he wouldn't be home. I wouldn't necessarily assume that he's either come to harm or is up to no good though. It's much more likely that he's just drunk far too much and crashed out on someone's sofa.

Hope all is ok OP, and that he is home and apologetic.

Update!!!

He's home after spending the night in the cells. Don't know the full story yet as I'm too angry to talk, but the gist I'm getting is he was sticking up for someone being assaulted. A case of wrong place, wrong time maybe. He was released without charge.

I'll make him sweat before I speak to him

Very dramatic thread!

Indeed!

I think I'd reconsider this Eastenders life. It's not a life I'd live.

Oh really nanny, pearl clutching much?! Her OH stayed out, she's perfectly fine at home. A phone call, sure, but to rush round there?! Ridiculous.

To you. If her mum was happy to do it, it's no skin off your nose, is it? I assume we're not talking a 2 hour trip on the bus.

Thanks for the update, glad he is safe and you can finally stop stressing (I hope)

Glad he's ok, surely they are allowed phone calls? Hope you're not too exhausted OP.

hulla, I am glad all is well - this is stress you can well do without during pregnancy. I am also due in March and I complain if dh is an hour late home from work (which he rarely is). It is a bit selfish of me but I have been struggling (for various reasons including running around after two dc) and I would be beyond furious if dh did anything like this to me at this time. I hope you are O.K and probably feeling a mixture of anger and relief at this time.

Just read some of the previous posts.... There are some nasty people out there. Glad you have the time to stop, read my thread and construct something negative to say. Have a lovely day....

My mum came over because I am 6 months pregnant, and I was worried about my partner as this is very out of character.

Thank you to everyone else who offered a hand hold and kept me sane through the night

If my dd was worried I’d be there if she needed me at any time day or night. Yes at 5am or 3 am I’d be in the car and with her in 20 minutes. She is 43 but I am always her mum.

Holy SHIT

A night in the cells? Give him hell.

Still would’ve thought he’d be allowed a call to tell his pregnant partner what’s what though