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Absolutely fuming.... Anyone awake?

186 replies

hullahoops · 07/12/2017 04:14

So here's a bit of back story, partner and I have just moved into a new house, expecting a baby in March, money is tight and I have been suffering with depression.

I only told him last week that I felt "depressed" and went to docs etc. He told me he'd be supportive blah blah blah.

So tonight, I get in from work to be greeted by him in his best clothes telling me he's going out for Chinese with the boys and he might be (and I quote) "a bit late"

So anyway, for someone being really supportive about the way I've been feeling lately, he's not text me all night. (He knows I'm home alone) I fell asleep there from about 10pm-1.30am woke up and was surprised not to find him at home (doesn't usually stay out past 12/12.30 During the week) well my concern now is.... It's after 4am, all the pubs closed at 2am, his phone is off. Am I right to think he's an absolute selfish bastard? I'm working at 7am.... Sitting at home worrying myself sick?

OP posts:
TooGood2BeFalse · 07/12/2017 05:16

That's good OP. Hope he turns up soon.

Whoyagonna · 07/12/2017 05:22

Some of ye have great Mums.

Original poster
hullahoops · 07/12/2017 05:23

I phoned the local hospital just to put my mind at rest.... He's not there. I suppose that's maybe a good thing?

OP posts:
Punkatheart · 07/12/2017 05:34

Oh poor you - I would be fit to explode.

Fruitbat1980 · 07/12/2017 05:34

Agh men are gobshites aren't they. I hope he has a good/ innocent explanation. God bless your mum for coming to be with you. She's a good one! Try to rest and concentrate on baby not that numpty pisshead. He's probably on a mates sofa.

huha · 07/12/2017 05:36

Argh what a twat. Try and rest when your mum gets there OP. And definitely call in sick.

splatattack · 07/12/2017 05:37

Wow...how incredibly selfish! So glad you have your mum for support..give him hell when he turns up..

shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 05:37

Glad your mum is on her way and he's not in hospital, that is a relief.

DueNov · 07/12/2017 05:43

What a selfish twat! I hope He s lost his keys or something and didn't want to wake you so went to his mum's x

sashh · 07/12/2017 05:44

Hope your mum is there now and you are having a cup of tea.

He's probably crashed at a mates and his phone is out of charge. He is being a twat, but you know that.

teabagfreak · 07/12/2017 05:45

Been there before Mrs and it's not nice. U feel so angry at the time you want to explode With rage and then when he eventually comes home with his excuse he brushes it off like u are a maniac for over reacting. You can't help but have all sorts of scenarios going on in your head.

Hope he's home soon, with a good excuse.

Thanks
SingleKrisKringle · 07/12/2017 05:49

You will be going between between anger and worry. A sickening feeling.

Even though you know he's just been an idiot I hope your not in the dark for much longer. You will be exhausted too. Glad you have your mum with you. He'll have to face both of you!

Meowstro · 07/12/2017 05:55

It is extremely selfish of him to do this but hopefully he has a reasonable explanation for this. If he lost his phone, would he remember your number?

MynewnameisKy · 07/12/2017 05:57

Oh Hullahoops hope he turns up with a reasonable explanation. Flowers

Badhairday1001 · 07/12/2017 05:58

It's a really selfish thing to do. Hope you are ok now your mum is with you.

SassySausageSupper · 07/12/2017 06:01

This would really upset me too. Hope everything is ok.

LEMtheoriginal · 07/12/2017 06:03

What a prick - I'd start calling his friends. He's probably crashed out on someone's sofa

cherrycola2004 · 07/12/2017 06:07

So out of order. Going out with mates is one thing not letting you know he's not coming back is quite another. Sad

dentalplanlisaneedsbraces · 07/12/2017 06:11

Going out and switching your phone off, leaving your pregnant partner at home is immature twattery at its finest. That is the behaviour of someone I would not trust to be a respectful partner and responsible parent, and I would be letting him know that.
Not in a million years would I ever put up with this. My ex used to pull these stunts. Never ever again.

Rudgie47 · 07/12/2017 06:13

Everytime this has happened to people I know the man has been shagging.Sorry but thats whats happened.
I'd be telling him to go and considering my options. Hes got no respect for you and your relationship if hes still out. All that falling asleep after one to many is absolute bullshit.
Sorry OP.

Filzma · 07/12/2017 06:15

Let us know what happened, why am i worried too! 😧

Ninabean17 · 07/12/2017 06:21

I hope you and your mum had a good cup of tea and you're feeling better. Also hoping if he's home now you gave him a piece of your mind.

flutterby12 · 07/12/2017 06:24

I'd be mad too. You poor thing. I hope you get some answers soon. He can't be doing this when baby comes.

TheWorldIsMyCakePop · 07/12/2017 06:27

Glad you've got your mum to support you. He has been thoughtless and selfish.

OneOfMyTurnsComingOn · 07/12/2017 06:27

Only just seen this. I hope everything is ok.

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