Absolutely fuming.... Anyone awake?

[hullahoops]

So here's a bit of back story, partner and I have just moved into a new house, expecting a baby in March, money is tight and I have been suffering with depression.

I only told him last week that I felt "depressed" and went to docs etc. He told me he'd be supportive blah blah blah.

So tonight, I get in from work to be greeted by him in his best clothes telling me he's going out for Chinese with the boys and he might be (and I quote) "a bit late"

So anyway, for someone being really supportive about the way I've been feeling lately, he's not text me all night. (He knows I'm home alone) I fell asleep there from about 10pm-1.30am woke up and was surprised not to find him at home (doesn't usually stay out past 12/12.30 During the week) well my concern now is.... It's after 4am, all the pubs closed at 2am, his phone is off. Am I right to think he's an absolute selfish bastard? I'm working at 7am.... Sitting at home worrying myself sick?

Hope he turns up soon.

Gosh, I'm furious on your behalf. I hope he has a good excuse

Hope he comes home soon.

He’s not asleep in the car maybe? Perhaps he forgot his keys and didn’t want to wake you.

Any sign OP?

Like you say OP, no issues with people going out, it's the lack of information that causes anxiety. Add alcohol and your feelings if depression into the mix and you have a worrying situation.

He's incredibly thoughtless at the very least. When he surfaces, don't let him claim that you're 'possessive' and 'controlling' and that old chestnut 'but I never go out, I'm allowed time with the lads' old bollocks.

This lack of consideration is the issue here - and the anxiety it has caused you all night.

If he's pissed coming home, say nothing. No good will come of an argument when he's drunk. Wait until he's sober.

I hope you're ok OP.

*of depression

I’d be pissed off with him too. There’s just no excuse for behaviour like this.

I’m glad your mum is there with you and hope he walks in any minute.

Also I was going to ask is this kind of thing a one off, what’s he like usually?

So many of these threads recently. I hope you're ok and drinking tea with your mum.

I don't know how you'd manage a day at work after this.

This would have me in a panic attack! Don't let him fob you off with the, you're overreacting crap when he gets home!

Does he have work today?
I'm sorry you've had a sleepless night. Hopefully there is a simple (if thoughtless) explanation... [hugs]

Let us know what happened, why am i worried too! 😧

I am the same... keep checking for an update 😳

I hope all is OK op

In reality if anything untoward had happened the police/hospital/mates would have phoned you.

And how is he getting to work this morning ?

I would be angry too OP as I would have been up worried sick if it was my DP.

Hope you’re ok OP. Have you contacted his mates?

I think the chances of anything bad happening are slim.

No news is good news. If anything catastrophic had happened you would have heard by now.

He may have crashed on a friends settee if the pubs are closed and they wanted to continue drinking.

I am certainly not excusing this, id be furious but try not to jump to the worst conclusion (which I know is easy to do)

I hope all is ok and he is home now OP

Hopefully he's home, OP. I can imagine how angry you are feeling.

Hope he's home with a good explanation now xx

What a twonk! Hope he's turned up for you x

I know some people say that they wouldn't expect any formal of when their partner is out, but if he's normally home by 00.30 and it's now 04.30, surely it just bloody rude not to let your pregnant wife know where you are so she doesn't worry unnecessary. There's no excuse for that in my book.