Wasn't invited to staff outing

[Dottie39]

So in September I joined an organisation/charity committee as secretary. There is a mix of paid and voluntary workers, I am voluntary.
I have worked really hard since joining, taking alot of work off paid workers bit I don't mind as it's a cause I care about.
I was with a few members yesterday helping out and nothing was said about the fact their Xmas Social was that evening, maybe because we were working?
I just saw loads of pics of them all there, on Facebook. It seems everyone was there but me and it really stings. I thought/think they like me...but maybe not. Or maybe they forgot me, but is this likely given how much I have done lately and have been around.
DH says just quit and forget it, bit I have links to the charity and I enjoy it. I just feel such an outcast... I'm either not worth remembering or I'm hated, aren't I?!

Thanks for the helpful advice. Just to clarify regarding the work, some paid members are absolutely pushed to their limits so they email me and ask if I can do things. I never take their work, they personally hand it to me to help - this is the norm in our work and is something that everyone is happy with and is accepted.

paid members are absolutely pushed to their limits so they email me and ask if I can do things.

but not inclined to email you to invite you out...

I think you have been treated ABYSMALLY.

Well, I have only actually seen one other member of staff who said they had a good time, but seemed reluctant to talk further and I'm not going to make her uncomfortable. I will perhaps speak to my manager when I see her.

Reluctant to talk further because she KNEW you were left out. If it were genuine, if someone thought you had been asked and didn't/couldn't come she'd have asked you about it.

Even if it had been an accidental oversight and picked up at the event, someone would have said "Oh Dottie, we hadn't realised you had not been asked, we felt bad/awful/sorry when we realised".

Normal people would have rushed to make you feel better. You would not be left to ASK about the event, and why you were not invited.

NOBODY touched on the subject on the day of the event in your hearing. this in itself is ODD and smacks of knowledge that you were NOT asked.

Added to this the 'picking up the phone' and being 'busy' when you raised the subject... it's looking very ugly and mean.

I know one does not give to get back, but FFS they are taking your time/effort and money to help themselves but colluding to exclude you from the socialising.

They're not just 'not giving back' they are snubbing you.

There MUST be another charity that you will have a connection with and where YOU as a person are valued as much as what you can do to help them?

I feel really angry for you.

It was her that posted the pics on Facebook and when I looked today she has deleted the post. Not sure what to make of it.

You're 'not sure what to make of it'?

I'd say it's abundantly clear.

I'm beginning to struggle here.

I feel really angry for you

If you actually do, you need to step away from the computer and have at look at your inappropriate overinvestments in the lives of strangers.

Oh do toddle off Cheerios eh?

Why?

To be honest, I think they forgot you and now feel very bad. But it's still worth saying something.

'They did this because they are shit human beings'

No. They are not.

This happened because people were very busy and had lots of their mind and let the ball drop. There is a huge difference between people maliciously doing something and a basic human error. People who say every single human error shouldn't happen aren't living in the real world and should take a look at themselves - because we have all done this kind of thing.....by mistake. And when it does if an individual is responsible they often say sorry. But if it's a group error, it's not always the case that someone says sorry. And in the wider scheme of things,not really doesn't matter that much that someone says sorry anyway because it's actually not a huge big deal, just a little mistake. And people who take massive offence at what happened and massive offence at what has happened or hasn't happened after gave a lack of perspective in their lives and see nastiness and conspiracy around every corner. Why people flatter themselves that everyone is out to get them, when people rarely give them much thought,mi really don't know.

All of us have made mistakes like those mentioned on this thread. We are not all nasty people. We have to accept that sometimes people can be a bit thoughtless or simply too busy......and get over it. Being over sensitive makes an awful work or group environment.

Wow Cheerios after all the support you've got on your thread you're really being a bitch to the op here. Why shouldn't she also get some support with something she's struggling with?

I think you're the op of the thread I'm thinking of...

I think you should just ask your manager op. Go to the staff drinks, get drunk and then ask...

I don't have a thread, you have confused me with someone else.

Neither am I being a bitch, but thank you.