I’ve been married for over 25 years now and have always had a good relationship with my husband. We don’t live in each other’s pockets and are apart a lot. I was talking to a female friend earlier today about how DH went hiking with some women he knows from the PTA and ended up getting trashed and staying over at one of their houses. She didn’t understand why that didn’t bother me and accused me of being a cool wife and giving other women a bad name.
As it was the woman’s husband was there as well, but even if now, it wouldn’t have bothered me. He’s a grown man and not my possession - as I’m not his. We respect each other and give each other leeway to be independent and live our own lives.
I don’t make a fuss if he’s looking at other women and he doesn’t make a fuss if I’m looking at other men.
Neither of us are bothered by the other spending time with friends of the opposite sex.
While I hate the porn industry as an industry I can’t get bothered by my husband watching it.
So, if that makes me a cool wife, then I’m cool with it.