To be raging with 'd'p?

[Naturebabe]

Basically, I did a big wash of all school uniform for ds for the coming week. I like to have it all clean and hung up for him in advance, so he knows where to find it. I work away quite a bit in the week, so it usually gets done on a weekend (dp doesn't bother doing any washing except his own stuff - where he's proud of how little he has to wash in terms of his own clothes).

As the weather was shite today, no chance of drying it outside. He hung it up indoors on a pulley thing (it would take a week to dry there), so I pulled it down and chucked it in the dryer. When I was out of the room, he got it all ot, chucked the load on the side, and PULLED THE FUSE OUT OF THE PLUG FOR THE DRYER! He has still not replaced it.

Am IBU to be a ball of rage about this?

He has form for being a tight arse.

What the FUCK. Why?

So he's denying your son clean dry clothes? Why?

Ask him how he thinks it will be ready for use - and tell him in future, unless he wants to make sure everything is ready, not to interfere.

So he’s done this to stop you using the dryer. He’s an arse. Can you take it to a laundrette?

I'd probably chuck all his clean stuff up the end of the garden.

But I'm petty like that.

Munkynutts, because he thinks the tumble dryer is a waste of money

Why did he do that?!!

Why would he do that?

That is SERIOUSLY out of order.

The fuse goes back in NOW or none of his washing will be done for a month. Oh and you need to talk.

Cross posted. What an arse!

What an odd thing to do

Is he generally abusive

What the fuck

He pulled out an oversized jumper ds hates and said he can wear that. Ive had to put the heating on for 3 more hours just so I can attempt to dry stuff on the radiator. He' so hard to live with.

Omg how fucking ridiculous!
Take a fuse from something else,,, check it’s the right amp of course. Preferably something of his but don’t say what .
Twat!

Whaaat?!

Put the fuse back in and dry your sons clothes. While they are drying, chuck DPs out in the rain. See how he likes wearing damp clothes tomorrow.

YANBU. What a twat.

So - you're away a lot through the week and your partner refuses to do DS's laundry, and he not only sabotaged your attempt to leave DS with a week's worth of clean school uniform, just because he's too cheap to pay for a single run of the tumble dryer, but left it where it would just have gone stinky?? Just to prove a point?

What are his redeeming features?

Huppo - I don't do his washing (he hardly has any cos he wears the same clothes all the time)

Can't find where he's 'hidden' the fuse.

Just re-read, he's your partner? How long have you been together? This is absolutely ridiculous! If he's got form id be making sure his clothes were soaking wet... Outside with him still in them

Take a fuse out of the washing machine or something else.

But seriously, kick him out. That is abusive. Don’t leave your child with him all week!!

OK, but HE has to redeem this situation. You putting the fuse back in is not enough. He HAS to know that this is completely unacceptable. It is way beyond a reasonable disagreement. It is controlling and horrible. If your children are exposed to it (and you haven't said they have) then that will give them all manner of wrong messages.

I would ge putting all his clothes in the bath for a nice soak in some water. See how he likes wet clothes