To be raging with 'd'p?

[Naturebabe]

Basically, I did a big wash of all school uniform for ds for the coming week. I like to have it all clean and hung up for him in advance, so he knows where to find it. I work away quite a bit in the week, so it usually gets done on a weekend (dp doesn't bother doing any washing except his own stuff - where he's proud of how little he has to wash in terms of his own clothes).

As the weather was shite today, no chance of drying it outside. He hung it up indoors on a pulley thing (it would take a week to dry there), so I pulled it down and chucked it in the dryer. When I was out of the room, he got it all ot, chucked the load on the side, and PULLED THE FUSE OUT OF THE PLUG FOR THE DRYER! He has still not replaced it.

Am IBU to be a ball of rage about this?

He has form for being a tight arse.

He's abusive, that's the issue. Not the clothes, the kettle, the fuse plug.

You live with a controlling and abusive man. What are you going to do about that?

Not sure of the backstory here as I don't think I've read any of your previous posts but this is not a good environment for your children. Would you be happy if they treated their partners like this?

Microwave some water for your hot water bottle.

I looked back at your posts for the last 6 months OP as your username was really familiar.

Why are you with this man? He's abusive, controlling, doesn't contribute anything worthwhile and makes your family life miserable.

The house is your 'dream house' - is this how you imagined it? Him ruining it?

Leave him tomorrow. Don't fuck about. This man will grind you down and ruin you.

You shouldn't fill the hot water bottle from the kettle. Just use the water from the hot tap.

Then tomorrow, work out how you're going to LTB.

Yeah, this:

Today 00:21 Mrskeats

Stop flapping about with fuses and deal with the main problem. You are married to an abusive, controlling man as has been made clear to you on your other threads.
When are you going to see the light?

Off to bed now, with said hot water bottle..... can't be ared thinking anymore. got to be up really early tomorrow. thanks all.

Whose name is the house in? Rented or mortgaged? You need not to be living with this idiot.

It sounds a really bad situation

Glad that’s sorted then

I think some posters are overreacting a tad. Forgive me if there's some backstory that I am unaware of, but what he did isn't terrible. Just fookin annoying and controlling. I don't think LTB on the basis of this, although I would be having some very stern words with him.

Yes it is terrible as it shows no respect or caring for the op or the children
Some people have low standards if they just think that’s annoying.
It’s also incredibly tight which is another horrible trait.

I never ceased to be amazed at what some mumsnetters will tolerate.

Such low standards.

This man sounds like a monster. Why on earth would you raise a child with him in the house?

Forgive me if there's some backstory that I am unaware of, but what he did isn't terrible. Just fookin annoying and controlling

Makes me wonder what YOU could be putting up with, to think fuse-napping ain’t that bad.

He' so hard to live with.

So don’t stay.

He’s an utter cunt. Get rid. You and DS deserve far better.

Leilaniii, I would kindly like to direct you to the definition of domestic abuse on the womensaid website.

This is controlling behaviour, and it is not the first such incident.

I appreciate you have a busy life but this does need to be dealt with op. Another 40 plus years of this behaviour? What if your son grows up to be like him? Then treats someone else's daughter the way your h treats you? I would raise hell if my dd grew up to be with a dick like this.

I'm sorry you are in this situation op, but please don't bury your head in the sand any longer. This needs tackling.

Kickassname, my apologies, I wasn't aware that there has been other incidents. Both of my husbands were tight barstards frugal and it did contribute to the demise of both marriages. So I get it.

He's so hard to live with

Then don't live with him.

This is financial abuse on par with him not letting you have money to make yourself lunch. There's no way a dryer-load of clothing costs enough in electricity to pay for a decent lunch, even one you cook yourself. If your partner were telling you that you could live on two meals a day and needed to skip lunch from now on to save money, would you do that too and avoid having a row that would make him "mental"?

Can you describe what kind of "mental" you think he'd be if you did retaliate in kind? What kind of behavior are you afraid of?

Very abusive and controlling behaviour.

looking from the other side he sorted it then you came decided it wasn't good enough and put it in dryer .If it was me would of just left it and put todays uniform in dryer in morning finished off in the take 20 mins. Mine used to love putting warm uniform on straight out of dryer .Then leave the rest tell him to sort it as it's not drying .

It’s totally pointless haranguing the OP to leave when it’s pretty obvious from her posting history that she is just venting about what a knob-jockey he is.

In the utopia that some posters obviously live in, it must be very easy to “just leave”. In the real world, not so much. It’s incredibly frustrating when people keep posting over and over about their shit lives, but it’s equally frustrating that some people can’t see how logistically difficult it is when you live with a controlling wanker.

It's not easy to leave an abuser. The op is nowhere near the stage of leaving, sadly.

Don’t bother removing fuses from his stuff.

Snip the whole plug off.

Oh OP - do please get rid of this utter bellend! What on earth does he bring to the relationship that's positive? I can't bear that level of tightness at all, but him treating you like a delinquent teen who's been on the internet for too long is just beyond the limit.

Dump his sorry arse.