To be raging with 'd'p?

[Naturebabe]

Basically, I did a big wash of all school uniform for ds for the coming week. I like to have it all clean and hung up for him in advance, so he knows where to find it. I work away quite a bit in the week, so it usually gets done on a weekend (dp doesn't bother doing any washing except his own stuff - where he's proud of how little he has to wash in terms of his own clothes).

As the weather was shite today, no chance of drying it outside. He hung it up indoors on a pulley thing (it would take a week to dry there), so I pulled it down and chucked it in the dryer. When I was out of the room, he got it all ot, chucked the load on the side, and PULLED THE FUSE OUT OF THE PLUG FOR THE DRYER! He has still not replaced it.

Am IBU to be a ball of rage about this?

He has form for being a tight arse.

What the fuck does your "D"P think you have a dryer for if you can't use it to dry one load of clothes on a wet, miserable winter day?!

OP do you actually want to be with him? He doesn’t sound at all nice. Can you get rid of him? Is the house owned or rented? Whose name
Is it in?

And yes, he's being a dick. Why buy a tumble dryer and have it take up space if you're not going to use it, even in the middle of winter?

haha great - i'm going to use the kettle. I may even 'forget' to put it back.

I’d pull the fuse out of the relationship, nothing is worth this shit.

Total knob. Bloody take the fuse from his fecking radio. I'm raging on your behalf!

Why don't you answer any questions? Why are you with him?

www.womensaid.org.u
Seriously.
Get in touch with them.

Missed a letter. Sorry:
www.womensaid.org.uk

He is a complete dick. Have you asked him why the fuck he’s done this. If you haven’t, ask yourself why not.

YANBU to be raging! I would be going mental. What an absolute cock! Whether or not he is DF to DC this is awful. They need clothes for tomorrow and this week. Did DDs today. Some hung up. Some tumbled. Am raging for you! Hope you get fuse sorted OP.

WHOA!!

Nature, you were posting about him in May. This is nothing new. Please get help.

So sad to hear this. What a horrible situation. Please don't put up with this nonsense - it sounds like you are enmeshed in a terrible relationship.

I am not joking. I'd have kicked him out.

youtube video for fuses? Might be something useful.

Controlling arse.

I'm so ANGRY on your behalf 😡. I hate this kind of meanness. My PIL are like this. When we stayed with them it was a freezing cold winter yet they refused to let us put the heating on. Our clothes hung on a line inside the house for days before they dried, leaving us with nothing to wear in the meantime.

I would take the fuses out of every plug in the house and throw them away: the radio, the kettle, everything he uses. See how HE likes it.

Take the fuse out of the kettle, microwave and toaster, and take them away with you? Or sellotape them to a divorce letter? I couldn't live with someone so mean and petty.

He's basically being shitty to your kid. LTB

I couldn't live with, or respect anyone who did something like that, OP.

He sounds petty, mean and unpleasant.

Thanks mumsnet - just got fuse from kettle - tumble dryer happily chuntling away again. Not just have to deal with the ore weighty problem of how I take his fecking fuse out .

How old is your DS/DC?

In fact, take the fuses out of everything in the house and arrange them on the work surfaces to spell out "I WANT A DIVORCE".

*Now just have to deal with the one weighty problem of how I take his fecking fuse out . Should be winding down for bed, but I'm full of adrenaline.

Does he do other stuff like this? It’s really aggressive and controlling.

Ah, you were given very clear advice and knew this right back earlier in the year.

I am not sure anonymous strangers advice is really going to get you to change anything. Something else in a few months time?

If this is how you have chosen to live, you need to remember how it works and expect accordingly. And hope your DS will somehow be ok in the years to come.