Ex girlfriend and new partner, please advise!

[Difficultsitch]

The relationship with my DH ex girlfriend and him is strained . They have a DD of 6. A new boyfriend has recently come on to the scene and staying over in the house with my DH DD which is fine but the ex is refusing to let DH know anything about him . Where does he stand?
Please help if you can .

If someone is sleeping in my child's house it is

Yes it is drastic and far end of scale but to say u don't have a right is not correct

I do think your DH has a right to be concerned. But to say because he still owns half her house it seems like this gives him some sort of right over how she leads her life. Which he hasn't really. If your DH has serious worries that this person might be a danger then he should approach the police. Sounds like it's an excuse to exert control over his ex. From what you've written.

I assume your husband has reported the abuse and control to the police? Did he try to be resident parent? Presumably the mother has limited access to your husband because of her control and abusive behaviour?

I agree with pp, your dh is scared for his child's welfare after suffering abuse and controlling behaviour from this women, why hasn't he applied for full custody

I was thinking on those lines op is she keeping dd for the money

Wrong thread

Some time ago, I was approached by a man looking for a relationship. Very attractive, very public business, all round good guy it appeared. A "quick Google" revealed he was in fact a convicted sex offender. If that makes me "creepy" then I am absolutely fine with that thanks very much

Men prey on vulnerable woman men prey on single mothers
Statistics of abuse between child and step dad are the highest it's facts

There is nothing to say the new boyfriend is preying on her ffs.

Yea but it happens

This exchange says it all - the DH wants to control his ex - he doesn't want to do a Sarahs Law, he wants information because information is little bit of power.

Difficultsitch Tue 21-Nov-17 12:22:23
He doesnt want to meet him. He just like a name, that's all. Im really wondering now if that's actually unreasonable?

Battleax Tue 21-Nov-17 12:23:15
So does he want the name to go and request a Sarah's Law check with? Or just to have the name?

Difficultsitch Tue 21-Nov-17 12:26:11
I think just a name battleax . A quick google and yes, I KNOW that won't give everything but just a name, a face you know?

Of course it does but I'm not sure what your point is in this instance?

That question is to olive

I had made the point several times
New boyfriend is sleeping in the house were dd is.
The risk is there

I was thinking on those lines op is she keeping dd for the money

Wrong thread hmm

You mean you're denigrating mothers across two threads at once? Do you just have a very low opinion of women in general olive?

I agree with Splinterz. This is all about control.

He's not that arsed about his daughter's safety- he knows she's most likely perfectly safe. These types are so predictable

Yes it is drastic and far end of scale but to say u don't have a right is not correct

It IS correct. You have conflated several different issues.

Well st somepoint most single parents will meet someone and have a relationship. I think we have to assume the mother will do all she can to keep her child safe, we have nothing to say she won't.

Yes the risk is there but its not why he wants the name he wants it to be in control.

If the DD was showing any signs of being upset etc then of course it is reasonable but at the moment it simply is coming across as he wants to know.

Both are the parents and she does have a right to decide who comes into her house without answering to him

A "quick Google" revealed he was in fact a convicted sex offender. If that makes me "creepy" then I am absolutely fine with that thanks very much

It's the possibility of those rare cases that made me say I can't decide whether googling is creepy or not.

Rare cases battleax please do ur research it is not rare

But you think women keep children for £££s olive?

And that all stepfather figures should be subject to Sarah's Law searches just in case?

All stepmother figures too?