Ex girlfriend and new partner, please advise!

[Difficultsitch]

The relationship with my DH ex girlfriend and him is strained . They have a DD of 6. A new boyfriend has recently come on to the scene and staying over in the house with my DH DD which is fine but the ex is refusing to let DH know anything about him . Where does he stand?
Please help if you can .

Why would him owning half the house mean that he had any rights, that he otherwise wouldn't, to know about her love life

Because what she wanted someone to say was that he owns the house, he gets to say who sleeps over.

none has yet said why it is acceptable for the mother to demand to meet the girlfriend (who own all likelihood the kids will only see once a fortnight) but the dad can't ask about the boyfriend (who the kids will be living with full time)?

It's an example of double standards but it has no legal standing. The ex can do what she wants. End of.

Single mothers are always in a very vunerable situation when they bring new men in to the house, very few bother to check what kind of man they are inviting in to be around their kids

Do sod off with your stereotypes and misogyny. Plenty of single mothers have no vulnerability whatsoever, own their own homes, drive cars, go to work, pay their bills etc etc. They are perfectly capable of safeguarding their children. And that includes reading the literature, understanding the statistics, and understanding the risks. The fault lies with the perpetrators of abuse - and people like you who stereotype and look down their noses at people whose lives don't match their own.

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Mumsnet bans and deletes for troll hunting, but not this vile discrimination against women, single mothers on a parenting forum mostly frequented by women.

Right

Something is really wrong in all this.

I wasn't going to post again, but I do feel I should awaiting the kicking.

I came on here a couple of years ago, in the same boat, but it was ex and weekend visits. (I'm a regular name swopper).

I expressed my concerns about not knowing where my DS was at the weekends, about the not being told and the weirdness of it all. I asked for advice on how to deal with it, as it made me uneasy not to know where he was & my gut said it was a strange that I wasn't allowed to know the person he was being asked to share a house with (and that was only for a couple a nights a week).

I did get informed that I had no legal right etc to know, but I also got some very good advice about what I could do to alleviate my concerns. I didn't get anything like the grief this OP has got. It actually helped me to sort out the situation (thank you).

I think this should be perhaps moved to relationships. The OP just asked for some advice about the situation. We only get a snippet, it's not our lives or a reflection on our lives. And ps it's bloody weird when an ex won't tell you what their new partner is called - especially when they have pretty much moved into together. Unless there is a massive back story as to why (and in some cases there may be), but in others it genuinely is just plain weird.