To leave DH over ruined underwear?

[Sprinklestar]

Ok, sounds dramatic, right?
But... We have been together years, known each other forever. Today, yet again, he washed my hand wash only underwear in the machine and ruined it. I have lost count of the number of times he has done this.
It is just such a waste and will need replacing. We must have had this scenario every year for the past ten.
It's like that thing on the internet about the man whose wife left him over a cup left on the side, its the constant drip drip drip effect and never learning.
I can't stand his incompetence anymore. How hard is it to check a label? And not mess with the stuff in the separate handwash only basket?!
I am so angry.

[hmmmmm]

Seeing What a git!

[iBiscuit]

If seeing had posted an AIBU about that, some twat would have been along to say she didn't need a tent anymore, now that she had a DP who hated camping.

[hmmmmm]

iBiscuit most probably. Then again a lot if mners seem to be in permanent AIBU mode.

[isthismylifenow]

I understand OP. This is just the cherry on the cake.

When stbx and I separated, I asked him to move out....he had stayed out late all night drinking. If someone just heard that part of the situation, they would think it was the most ridiculous reason to end a marriage.

But it was all the other stuff that did the damage. That night he didn't come home was the just final straw.

[whenthestarsturnblue]

@EmilyChambers79, I completely agree with you.

and to @brabenot 'Emily you're still not getting it. ' and this applies to some other eejit who was 'banging their head in despair' at the table of 'people not getting it'

I get those points, I have heard those points. That he is essentially being abusive or underhand or snide or even vicious through his washing of the underwear. I don't agree, at the most he is being petty in thinking what is she f**king on about underwear for; jesus what else; or the most likely 'yes, I heard you, (really didn't) but I heard the bit about getting the wash done.' Normal men simply don't give a shit about what cycle clothes go into and if they do, then they are a bit henpecked or lacking in manliness (and probably pluck their eyebrows too).

Beyond that that the OP has never suggested her post was 'tongue in cheek' or made in a funny way. If you would divorce someone over that, you have a problem, she said herself he was good beyond that. But some pack of hyenas on here want a story to follow, an up to date, moment by moment of how she ditched him over washing clothes incorrectly and how this is an aggressive tactic on his part. Stop banging your heads and accept that people don't agree.

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

Normal men simply don't give a shit about what cycle clothes go into and if they do, then they are a bit henpecked or lacking in manliness (and probably pluck their eyebrows too).

Ugh. My husband is none of the things you suggest and yet, amazingly, still manages to know how the washing machine works, which settings to use and not to wash things I've put to one side for handwashing/dry cleaning. If other men can't, and yet manage to cope with other machines perfectly well (e.g. cars, smartphone) I would say that's because they don't see it as important enough to make the effort to learn to do household tasks properly. This is not admirable or manly, it's selfish and childish.

[whenthestarsturnblue]

It's not about whether it's manly, or childish, what your DH does, what my DH does The AIBU asked was should I leave him over this? If that is her dealbreaker then I think it's kind of depressing.

[Ecureuil]

Normal men simply don't give a shit about what cycle clothes go into and if they do, then they are a bit henpecked or lacking in manliness (and probably pluck their eyebrows too)

Glad I don’t know the men you do.
DH is a rugby player. Definitely doesn’t pluck his eyebrows. He still knows how not to ruin clothes in a washing machine, because he’s not stupid.

[chatwoo]

Laminate a printed message or giant post-it 'HAND WASH ONLY. DO NOT PUT IN MACHINE".

No?

[chatwoo]

Ooops late to the party as usual - did not see the 21 pages of discussion

[AnnaMagdalenaGluck]

Normal men simply don't give a shit about what cycle clothes go into and if they do, then they are a bit henpecked or lacking in manliness (and probably pluck their eyebrows too)

Is this actually meant as a serious contribution to the discussion?

Fuck me.

[PoorYorick]

Normal men simply don't give a shit about what cycle clothes go into

But they do give a shit about their partner's feelings and possessions.

[imablackstarnotapopstar]

Because I have such massive boobs I have to buy horribly expensive bras - I literally have 2 bras at any one time. When I need to wash them I hand wash them in the bath water with natural soap before anyone gets in and then hang to dry in the shower. Dry by morning and never near the washing basket.

[imablackstarnotapopstar]

Not that I'm saying your DH has any excuse by the way! Just saying I know how expensive bras can be!

[whenthestarsturnblue]

Normal men simply don't give a shit about what cycle clothes go into

@Poor Yorick - But they do give a shit about their partner's feelings and possessions.*

True and it wasn't until 2/3 of the way into this thread that the OP made her claim that it was wilfull, destruction. Nice if she had mentioned that in her opening post. Talk about a drip feed.

[whenthestarsturnblue]

@Ecureuil , nice to know he plays rugby, what a fucking man!

[whenthestarsturnblue]

Is this actually meant as a serious contribution to the discussion?

Fuck me. hmm

638 messages and that is your contribution? Pot, kettle? Ummm maybe single?

[PoorYorick]

True and it wasn't until 2/3 of the way into this thread that the OP made her claim that it was wilfull, destruction. Nice if she had mentioned that in her opening post. Talk about a drip feed.

That has nothing to do with your stupid post and asinine comment about your idea of manliness. Real men in your world are too helpless and stupid to know how to use a washing machine? Only a henpecked sissy would know a basic life skill that involves knowing few symbols and pressing a button?

Dear God I hope you don't breed, you hateful Darwinian nightmare.

[whenthestarsturnblue]

Maybe you are the Darwinian nightmare PoorYorick? Only you can answer that, that's a very melodramatic comment and a very personal one. You won't get far in life throwing out that level of hate. I feel so sorry for you, I feel bad for reviving that thread. Best of luck in the future.

[whenthestarsturnblue]

@Poor yorick... [single much!?]

[Lweji]

@Poor yorick... [single much!?]

Is single supposed to be an insult?