Umm, what a dick move?

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This is probably the definition of a first world problem but...

SIL and I got pregnant around the same time, and she's just had her baby girl. I'm due in a couple of weeks.
Before I even found out I was having a girl, I had my heart set on the name Elle - I even posted a thread about this! Me and SIL are close and she knew very, very well about this.

After much deliberation, I helped SIL decide on the name Mia for her baby.

Went to visit her and new baby in hospital this morning, where she announced that her baby looked like such an ELLA that she just had to screw Mia and go with that. I didn't say anything but I wanted to throttle her

Umm, wtf? SIL knew very well that we were going with Elle, and now we can't! Elle and Ella are just TOO similar, let's face it.

I am extremely pissed and also upset! I trusted SIL like a best friend. She's always been very aware of people's feelings.

Just rang up my mum, and was told I was being 'bratty' and 'overreacting'.

I would never dream of doing what SIL did, though!

AIBU?

Go with Elle, just see (a lot) less of the SIL :-D

NextMrsHardy, how about choosing the name Ailsa for DD only a few weeks before "Frozen" came out? And guess how most people call DD

OP, I think you should still use the name Elle for your little girl.

Quite a few Ellas I know are shortened to Elle for some reason so you need to bear that in mind, so they use Ella then Elle as a nickname.

How about Celeste? Elle can be used as a derivative and it's a great name

Call her Elle anyway, I have 2 half sisters with the same name (odd situation, neither related to each other but both related to me) has only occasionally needed to be explained.

This is why me and dh didn't tell anyone the name we liked.name ur daughter her daughter's middle name to piss her off 😁

Yanbu. Your mum is bvu for being so insensitive.
Your sil has shown herself to be selfish to choose something so close to what you had your heart set on.
There are so many beautiful names, choose another and don’t make the same mistake again.

How about Elmia, Elzira or Eleonora, you can still call her Elle at home but distinctly different name.

Go with Elle, it’s a nicer name than Ella anyway

Just call her Elle. Unless of course she looks more like a Mia when she arrives!

My niece is Ellen, my daughter is Eleanor. Just call her Elle if your heart is set on it

Isabelle - and shorten it to Elle
YANBU and I can understand you being upset

Also, DH was set on calling DD Evie but when she arrived it just didn't feel right for her. We ended up choosing something totally different. Your baby might not be an Elle when she arrives.

I agree Ailsa is lovely, I had a friend at school called Ailsa and always wished I'd been called that.

I’d use the name anyway if I felt it suited. Sometimes a name does just jump out and fit. My son had a name change because the one we’d chosen just didn’t work. I know a few cousins with similar names and don’t even think about it.

Something to be aware of though is that Ella is just outside the top 10 name wise so there will likely be many other Ella’s apart from her cousin. If other similar names bother you don’t go with Elle as there’s a high chance of finding an Ella in the same class.

Elle itself is much lower down but is also going to have people thinking about stranger things if used now I’d imagine. You also need to think about if that would bother you.

Don't stress about it now.
Wait until your DD arrives.
Give it a day or 2 and then decide on what you want to call her.
I called my DD a name for 4 days then decided it didn't suit her.
So it became her middle name and she got a totally different name.
It does happen that they just 'don't look like' a certain name.

I'm with PP on this. Just wait till the wee thing is born and see how you feel about the name then. You might decide to go for something completely different...and if not...call her Elle. It is a lovely name...however I'm sure that you know that in French it just means 'She' whereas if you called here Belle she will be 'Beautiful'.

I know of plenty of related Ava, Eva, Eve and Evie type names, wouldnt bother me. I also know of a Mya, Mia and Thea. Obviously didn't bother SIL and DB, why should you panic about it.

You never know, you might have a boy in the end. (I agonised over boy names only to be surprised by my little girl. Scans are not always 100%...)

What about going with a name which is shortened to Elle like Danielle or Gabrielle? Elana also a very nice name.
I have three children, the youngest is a girl and I had a huge list of names I loved but when my daughter was born I chose a different name from the ones we had discussed for months. It was the same with each of my sons. I'd wait and see how you feel when she arrives, if you want to call her Elle, then call her Elle.
In my opinion YANBU but don't let it change what you want to call your daughter.

I think YANBU .

Also slightly off topic but Ella makes me think of Rihanna's 'Umbrella' song.
I'd not be able to stop myself going "under my umbrella Ella Ella eh eh eh" every time I interacted with them

*diddl

"and watch sil scramble to find a full name version for Ella! "

Why would she do that-it's a perfectly full enough name as it is*

I know Ella is a perfectly fine name as it is but I figured that, as SIL has nearly-copied OP's name choice, she might also be tempted to copy a full name/nickname combination as there are various names that Ella could be a shortened version for.

Bold fail !

Elle? French for She? There are many names but it sounds like you feel betrayed. Check why your sister in law really chose such a similar name. Your future relationship will be defined by her answer.

Hey - what about Chanelle or Chantelle???

Why can't you call your DD Elle? Or Isabelle, with Elle as a short form?
While you and SIL may be relatively close, our daughters may not spend their lives attached to the hip.
You don't own the name. It's irrelevant. I wouldn't care if my relative would call their daughter my daughter's name (or similar).