AIBU to think my friend is taking the piss?

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Was supposed to meet with friend this evening to help her out with a project and catch up. We were supposed to meet up at around 6pm when she was due out of work but at 6pm she sent me a text saying "Just got off work, I am heading to the gym now, will be done at around 9pm, let's meet then! x" . Didn't say anything, figured I could use the time to do stuff around the house and do a bit of work. Come 9 pm and she sends me another text saying that she "just finished her gym session and was now going to get a shower and go home" so I simply told her to text me when she was home and ready and I would come over (she lives close by), about an hour later I received another text from her saying that she had "just bumped into a friend who has just moved in the area and she was off to check out her new appartment but she would text me when she left her friend's flat so we could meet." It is now 11pm (!) where I am living and I am sat at home supposedly waiting for a text from her to tell me she is now finally ready to meet me.

So am I unreasonable to think she is taking the utter piss? She has a form for this too. She once asked to meet up with her at a certain time, then texted me when I was ready to tell me that she would need an extra hour to clean up her place and have a quick shower, when I got there an hour later, she had "fallen asleep" so I had to wait an extra 30 minutes in her living room while she showered and got ready, we then spent an hour together (where I got dragged along to buy furniture for her place) before she casually told me that she had a skype session scheduled with her therapist in about 15 minutes and did I think we could meet up again when she was done an hour later.

So is that me or this friend absolutely doesn't value me or my time at all? I have no problem being flexible and rescheduling but I have feeling she has taken it to the next level now and I am especially angry as I have refused other plans for the night so I could be available for her and her project and have now been left feeling like a proper mug.

Are you a carpet or what?

Oh my god don't be a mug
Don't you dare go round now! Tell her you're tired and going to bed fgs

Even if she doesn't now expect your help this evening, she's wasted your whole evening. Total pisstaker, stop letting her get away with it. On the shopping trip did you wait while she had her Skype call??

She has waaaay too much influence over you

4 and a half hours later than planned? No.

Tell her no fucking chance! What a CF. If your helping her is so important, she can bloody well make herself available at a decent hour.

Cross posted. No. Fucking. Way. She just wants you to work while she drinks.

Please don't go over there after she's messed you about for 4.5hrs! Totally taking the piss

Just text back 'sorry it is too late for me now' . If she wants your help on a project then she should not mess you around!

Ping your ex friend to tell her you've gone to bed.l

No. Tell her you we're ready at 6 and you're going to bed now.

Do NOT go round. She's a serious CF.

@StorminaBcup I do actually, she is the one who supposedly have very little friends (can see why now tbh!) and has an history of being bullied and all of this which is part of why I have been more flexible with her than the average as I know she struggles to make friends (or keep them) and can be quite depressed. This is also why I struggle with telling her to "fuck off!" or anything similar when I totally know I should. Argh.

Try saying no OP, come on don’t be a mug.

You feel bad? Do you think she feels bad for wasting your time?

Tell her you have other things to do and were ready you help her 5 hours ago when you agreed.
You are helping her not the other way around.
Either that or you will always be her reliable door mat friend who is always there regardless.
And that's not fair to you at all.

I'm petty so I wouldn't care that she saw that I read/ heard the messages, in fact I would be happy for her to know. I would put my phone on 'Do Not Disturb' and go to sleep

Text back to say you are engrossed in a film but will catch up with her another time.

If you teach people to treat you as second best don't be surprised when they do.

Ok so she knows you have read the texts - good. Point made.

Turn your phone off and go to bed.

Text her and tell her you won't be doing any work now as it's so late, but you'll pop round for a quick drink.

That's if you want to go?

If not then tell her you are tired now, and take a rain check.

For the love of God grow a pair and say no !

If you go out now you are a total mug and have only yourself to blame the next time she does this.
She doesn't have many friends because she's a shit froend. Not your responsibility!

You're too nice. She knows it.

She knows you feel sorry for her so she can treat you like shit

If anyone was doing me a favour I'd be rearranging my schedule to suit them AND ensuring they were well fed and watered and offering favours in return

Don't feel bad for telling her to fuck off. 11pm instead of 6 is an omnishambles

You should reply "just bumped into an old friend so heading out for cocktails, text me when you're next free, have a fun night!"

Ok. Don't say f off. Just a polite. Too late for me now, will have to reschedule. Then wait for her to get in touch, don't organise it yourself.