To think a 13 year old boy shouldn't use the ladies loo?

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NC for this. Recently I was in a situation where a group of people I was in went to a service station. A boy of 13 was told by his mother to come into the ladies with her rather than use the gents as it was safer.

AIBU to think that’s not OK?

It's nice to get it finally cleared up isn't it

Schroedinger's penis.

Eh?

Schroedinger's penis
Best post on the thread!

Though the fact you noticed this child, felt the need to come on a forum and then discuss this situation with strangers, just highlights the mum was probably right to keep her son nearby.

Why? In case a bunch of strangers on the interwebs figure out who this kid is and where he lives from the lavishly detailed description the OP has not posted and then decide to form the nine circles of hell around his end terrace in Stoke?

Schroedingers penis

Schroedinger's penis

I’ve been following this thread fuming at the idiotic mothers of teenage boys and then I see this. Hands down the best post on any thread I’ve seen. Trying to hold my laughter in and not wake the baby!!!

Schroedinger's penis is destined, I feel, to be the answer to so many discussions on the Feminism boards.

Schroedinger's penis is the answer to many of the world's problems

Schroedinger's penis is destined, I feel, to be the answer to so many discussions on the Feminism boards.
Certainly on the trans threads.

Schroedinger's Penis will be the new Penis Beaker...

We had this issue on a recent Spa day. One woman dragged her young teenage son into the ladies changing area giving it laldy about how he wouldn’t be safe with all the male preafatots in the men’s. My 14 yo dd was totally mortified as she was changing (only 1 private changing area which was being used) and a veery upset older lady who had had breast surgery and her towel fell as she tried to cover herself. It’s not appropriate and if parents feel they need to change with their children they should request family areas/disabled changing areas depending on what is appropriate.

Schroedinger's Penis will be the new Penis Beaker...

Nah, Schroedinger's Penis is a real phenomenon!

I am in all seriousness, despairing at this thread. The attitude of mothers of boys, towards girls is really concerning. How on earth can we expect boys to respect girls, when their own mothers don't. Nothing is ever going to change is it

When DS was younger, if I was worried, I’d be outside the men’s toilets. First indication of trouble and I’d have been in there. I had a few propositions whilst waiting. DS never needed to shout.
I agree that a lot of mummies see constant threat and danger where there is little risk. Teens have to learn to live in the world and feel confident about managing themselves, whatever gender they identify with.

Empress, according to DS’s shocked analysis, what goes on is lack of accurate aiming and flushing, plus little hand washing. So the men’s toilets are unpleasant in many ways.

Except it isnt like penis beaker. That was funny. This thread is serious or it was until you found a common joke and started cackling like a group of school bullies. Hilarious. Glad its funny.
Teenage boys in changing rooms is awful poor woman re mastectomy. I worked in a ward with a nurse who barged into curtained bays with no consideration for privacy.
Privacy in changing rooms is a different issue to safe space in toikets but both should be upheld and female only. Yet again however the mummy passive aggressive language is used about boy mums. I keep mine out of female spaces full stop but the lack of respect over boy mum parenting skills is horrible just because some mums think its ok (or are scared for their kids the same as anyone else. The behaviour might not be ok-it isnt-but the concerns are real).
So not funny really is it?

And unpleasatness is not a reason to use ladies toilets. The putting a teenage boy is womens changing rooms however is disgusting and horrible for the boy as well as the women.

That was funny. This thread is serious or it was until you found a common joke and started cackling like a group of school bullies.
Except it IS funny.
People with a penis aren't a threat so women/girls should put up with it but people with a penis are so much of a threat that teen boys shouldn't the males.
Aka Schroedinger's Penis

the mummy passive aggressive language is used about boy mums
but the lack of respect over boy mum parenting skills is horrible
This isn't about mothers of boys.

It is about mothers of teenage boys who infantalise them and treat them like they are small children to the point where all other women and girls should put uo and shut up.
Their entiee logic makes no sense, hence the joking.
So yes, we will joke about mummy holding little darling teen son's hand leading him to the ladies because it is ridiculous.

How on earth can we expect boys to respect girls, when their own mothers don't. Nothing is ever going to change is it
Agreed. We've even had people arguong girls should put up with male people in their toilets and thr suggesting any issues are them being entitled.

Ha. Ha.
Not.
Darling sons.
Mummies.
Infantalise.
Paradox? Absolutely. Funny? No.
If men are so dangerous that should be the issue which needs addressing. But oh no. They arent- your 'DH' is fine-so lets blame boys and their mums instead. Your girls wont be abused in the home by grown males for being girls but they will be abused by males in public for going to the toilet.
Schroeginger's vagina.
Not so funny now is it.
Boys should not be in female spaces. Mine never are.
Females need safe spaces because some men are a risk. Lets tackle misogyny propely instead of joking about the bits you find funny.

Dinger not ginger obviously. Befor someone says thats hilarious as well.

value-I have really lost track of what side you are in this discussion now.

Me too betrand
I think they're just looking for more and more ways to be outraged.

And here are some of us still thinkinh common sense is:
Men and boys use the mens
Women and girls use the ladies
If a parent (mum or dad) has a young child then take the young child in with them to their toilet or use a family facility.
Teenagers use the correct facility for their sex.

If it's such a big issue for some mums then they can go somewhere like costa with one toilet at the back, buy a drink and use the toilet there (that's what I've done when the public toilets have been grim as anything)