To think this is a total invasion of privacy? (New boyfriend searching my details at work)

[Kellyopio]

I started dating someone 7 weeks ago.
I work part time in a office and also look after my gran who is 93 with dementia.
I live in a council property at the moment and get help with housing benefit.
I didn't want to get into great detail with him so just said I work office work.
He is a housing officer for a local council (25 mins away from me) different council tho.
He has never been to my house and I've never given him my address.
Sunday we were going for a meal and I was in town so I said it's ok to pick me up from town.
I got in his car he said driving was a nightmare it would of been easier to pick you up from (my address)
I've never told him my address and he keeps asking questions about work and hours I do and housing benefit etc
I think he's been searching my details.
Would you be annoyed?

Report him and run a mile

This dude is f*cking psycho. The word "creepy" is still way too tame in describing him. He stalked you by looking up where you live and the benefits you received. He was then pissed off or torqued about it enough that he actually asked you about it instead of just keeping that info to himself!! He really doesn't understand what he did was wrong and he doesn't have any sense of boundaries.

Report him to the housing authority and to the police! You need to get protection from him as he now knows where you live and personal information like benefits info. There could be other women to whom he's done this. He's a complete nut job.

Kellyopio it sounds like your feelings haven't grown and actually his behaviour is odd. Quizing you about money of any kind is odd and creepy.

Hope you are OK.

Report him OP.

He's abusing his position and he's abusing you - and everyone else he's accessed details about - people who do this don't just do it to one person. he needs to be stopped.

Dump him, it's weird.

Very strange that he would feel the need to do it! Dump him

Id dump him pronto and put in an official complaint for good measure

I wonder if this is his way of catfishing people to route out false benefits claimants? That would be so diabolical. WTF.

I can see you might go for a 2nd or 3rd date if you weren't sure but 7 weeks suggests a lot more than 3 dates. Not sure why you wouldn't trust your instincts or why you were so keen to see if something developed. Nothing you've said suggests he was a great guy with a fab personality but you didn't fancy him and wanted to see if he grew on you, in fact it sounds like you didn't really like anything about him!

Isn't your time more valuable than wasting it with someone who makes you uncomfortable and who you're having to conceal your address from after nearly 2 months?

The housing association is the same one as he works at but different city.
It's xxxxx housing (not sure if that means anything to anyone )

That's how.

Make a complaint against him through the formal complaints procedure (and don't put any more identifiable details up here).

I'm not trying to defend him, he sounds like an arse anyway, but why didn't you immediately ask "how do you know that?"?

Dump him.

Jings What would be the motivation there? If he's a housing officer there would little cause for him to do that, especially if she's not in his patch. We have a yearly HB fraud initiative but we only do this in our own patches and it's pretty much a tick box exercise to flag up the most obvious tenants. Our workload is too big to just investigate random people. Even then then we pass on the details and wouldn't investigate ourselves but assist in any investigation.

Trust your intuition, OP.

Dump him and make a formal complaint.
He will have left an electronic trail using his login details to access your records so there will be proof.
He could easily fuck about with your account and make things hell for you/your gran.

What on Earth gave you the idea he might know your address?? Nothing you've said would really indicate that

How about the fact that OP has said he told her her address - house number and street.

Dob and dump

So how many dates did you have? Did you spend nights at his. Just curious how you are so confident that you never mentioned your street. Could you have had any document visible with your address that he may have seen?
Do you have any mutual friends?
I often Google new people I meet, I would have thought most people would Google a new partner. Is your address online?

Agree with what everyone else has said re mis-using access to data.

But have you declared the fact that your gran is now sharing her property with you? She would have had a 25% discount on council tax for single occupancy, which she is not now entitled to. Tho' there may be exceptions for carers?

Have you been out for a few drinks with him? Can you remember for definite that you didn't mention your address?
It's a serious allegation to make unless you're 100%.

Sorry but wtf

Went on to ask u if u ever claimed benefits

Sorry dump dump dump

What a bonkers question regardless of his job.

He defo thinks his in a position of power but really his just an admin worker !!!

Oh I do hope you report him OP and he ends up on benefits.

It's a serious allegation to make unless you're 100%.

It can also be disproven by checking his company IT history.

I would ask him, how he knew your address, as you never gave it to him. I would report him to his work, and dump him, very inappropriate.

It can also be disproven by checking his company IT history.

Yes, very easily established. So no harm in assuming the glaringly obvious and filing a complaint.

I would ask him, how he knew your address,

I wouldn't interact with him any further, TBH. He sounds as creepy as hell.

I really hope you will report this. It is gross misconduct for him to look you up on this way.