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To think this ‘game’ was really inappropriate and to complain?

294 replies

TattiusTeddius · 13/11/2017 18:53

Went out for a meal with DH today at a chain Italian place. The waiter took our order and then when he was finished said “thanks Lucy” (my name). I was Confused as I had no idea who this guy was or how he knew me. DH asked but I said I honestly haven’t got the foggiest, and he joked about are you sure he isn’t a previous conquest (I had a, how would you say, illustrious sexual history pre-DH). The waiter kept on saying my name whenever he served us drinks and courses and I felt really rude that I didn’t know him back but he obviously knew me.

Anyway at the end of the meal when we were paying the bill, he said “Do you want to know how I know you?”. I said yes, clearly a bit embarrassed. Then he said “I don’t!”. He explained how the staff were playing a ‘game’, if someone walked in the restaurant who one of them knew, another waiter or waitress would serve them using their name constantly to freak them out. It turns out my friend’s sister works in the kitchen so passed my name on to the waiter. I kind of did a “oh ha ha ha” but TBH I was a bit appalled.

AIBU to think that this ‘game’ was really inappropriate? What if my DH had been an abusive man who didn’t see the funny side? Luckily he’s not but this is something that would provoke many partners to lash out. Aside from that, it’s just not very professional to do that to customers. WIBU to complain to a manager? DH thinks I’m over reacting 🙄

Or am I just an old stick in the mud?

OP posts:
Samesituation · 15/11/2017 21:11

I think it's very unprofessional, and rather weird. I would contact the Head office rather than the restaurant manager. Completely agree people don't know what the repercussions of that could be.

wibblywobblywoo · 16/11/2017 12:49

Another one saying please do let us know what they say OP.

TattiusTeddius · 17/11/2017 15:41

Hi all, OP here
Wanted to update you all, I got a phone call from the restaurant manager today.
He apologised, he wasn’t in on Monday so didn’t know anything about this game the staff played. I didn’t name names, but I explained how this could be detrimental to people with MH issues and those with abusive partners. He completely agreed, and all the staff who were in on Monday will be spoken to and given some form of ‘sensitivity training’. No one will be formally disciplined he said, he believes it’s a one off and said to his knowledge this game had never been played before. I’m being sent £30 of vouchers (which I am gonna spend in the restaurant the next town along). All in all I’m happy with that outcome!

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StealthPolarBear · 17/11/2017 16:02

:)

AnnetteCurtains · 17/11/2017 16:18

good result tat

BewareOfDragons · 17/11/2017 18:06

Good result

Mummyoflittledragon · 17/11/2017 18:35

That’s a great result!

AntiHop · 18/11/2017 09:52

That's great! Well done for pursuing this.

LaContessaDiPlump · 18/11/2017 09:55

Well done op; I hope it opens a few eyes to how domestic abuse may manifest itself (and to mental health issues too).

JonSnowsWife · 18/11/2017 09:56

What if my DH had been an abusive man who didn’t see the funny side? Luckily he’s not but this is something that would provoke many partners to lash out.

YNBU at all and I can completely see where you're going with that. The waiter was lucky this time that your DH isn't like that but the next time he decides to play that game the next persons DH (or DW even) might be.

Spadequeen · 18/11/2017 10:16

I can imagine when I was younger (and stupid) I might have thought this would sound like a fun and harmless thing to do, hopefully I would have realised how it might make people feel and how dangerous it could be before I joined in.

I’m pleased to hear that the manager is taking it seriously and is going to ensure it is dealt with. Well done for complaining g in a reasonable manner, hopefully the staff will learn to think before they decide to play any further pranks.

WellThisIsShit · 18/11/2017 12:35

Great result.

MoistCantaloupe · 18/11/2017 14:23

Great outcome OP!

rage707 · 18/11/2017 15:47

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AlternativeTentacle · 18/11/2017 16:08

what does hubby think of you being non-virginal when he met you?

What the fuck has it got to do with you? For fucks sake.

Spadequeen · 18/11/2017 16:20

Seriously? That’s what you got from this thread Rage?

JonSnowsWife · 18/11/2017 16:20

what does hubby think of you being non-virginal when he met you?

rage707 sorry to be the one to disappoint you, but it's not longer 1842 and it also has fuck all to do with the question the OP posed. HTH.

Oblomov17 · 18/11/2017 16:38

I think it’s inappropriate. But I would have said something, after he had called me my name.

Willow2017 · 18/11/2017 23:00

Rage
Do you have to practice to be so ignorant or do you just get up early and get better at it as day goes on?

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