As per the title really 
So there you are at your wedding breakfast, formal affair, it's speech time.
You all know the running order, you're all a bit nervous because you've been working on your speech.
And then in the middle of it all, FIL stands up to make a speech. You aren't sure what's going on.
He hasn't told you about this, hasn't checked if it's ok or run it past you.
How do you feel about this?