"Their 'flair' says FtM. So born female, identifies as male, attracted to men. Annoyed that people see them as a lesbian. And thinks men attracted to them are gay rather than straight. Its all so odd. "
No, that's not right (about the lesbian bit).
She is FTM and says she is 'gay as fuck'.
So she says she is a homosexual man because she is a transman who wants to have sex with men.
With me so far?
She is complaining that the hookup site is full of 'straight trans women'.
That is to say 'male homosexuals who dress up as women'.
What she is looking for on the site is:
(a) a man
(b) who wants to have sex with a man
(c) but she (the subject in (b)) is actually a woman
That doesn't sound too difficult, right, loads of straight blokes with lesbian fetishes?
But no, in fact, what she actually wants is:
(a) a fellow FtM transperson (i.e. a butch lesbian)
OR
(b) a gay man who likes vaginas.
She's bought into the 'genital preferences are transphobic ideology' - it's horrifically offensive for a heterosexual man to be attracted to her for being female.
www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/77fd6y/why_are_there_so_many_straight_trans_women_on/dolgkxq/
Also she's on a gay hookup site, and she complains that she's only matching with women. Except they aren't women, they are men. But they don't want to have sex with her because they like cock and she hasn't got one. And anyway she likes masculine-presenting men or masculine-presenting women, but not feminine-presenting men.
Also she's complaining that the 'straight' men who go on the site and seek out sex with transwomen (i.e. men) are perpetuating a stereotype that men who have sex with men are gay.