Unappreciative and rather cheeky

[Lucey33]

As Christmas is fast approaching I thought I'd call my sister in law to ask her if there was anything in particular my six year old neice wanted. I don't really like asking people what they want as I like to surprise them but my Sil is a bit weird and obsessive when it comes to Christmas and she will go round telling each family member specifically what she wants.

Anyway, she sent me a link to a present my neice wants. It was one of those fur real dog things. So I ordered it and went to collect it and the woman who served me said that they didn't have the exact one I'd ordered. The dog was the same except my Sil said to get the black one and the store only had the white in stock. I didn't think this would be a problem as like I said it was the same dog just a different colour. So I messaged my Sil to tell her and she messaged me back saying she didn't like this particular one. I explained the black one was out of stock at the store I was at and also out of stock everywhere else. I explained that the the features were exactly the same and just the colour was different and she said she's not giving It to my neice and I should take it back and get something else or give her the receipt and she will swap it when the one she wants comes back into stock.

Aibu to think this is really cheeky? My husband has gone mad saying I've bought her a lovely gift and our neice will be made up. I would never dream of telling someone I don't like your gift and I'm taking it back. Don't get me wrong i know our kids do end up with some tat they don't like quite as much as their other gifts and us adults too at times but that's life, but the gift I bought was £40 which is a lot for me to spend considering I have ten nieces and nephews. My husband is adamant we are not giving his sister the receipt so she can swap it and we will just give it to our neice on the day. I know she'll be happy. I reallt don't know what Sil's problem is and think she's being a spoiled selfish madam.

[Jaxhog]

This is what happens if you ask!

At 6, it is a life or death thing if some tiny (to us) detail is wrong. There are all sorts of reasons why it might be e.g. her friend has a white one (or a black one), her dollies prefer a black one, a black one goes with her favourite coat etc. Who knows? Your Sil, while not terribly tactfull, knows her daughter. Take it back and get a Black one, a voucher or another present. Its a present! Get her what she wants, or don't bother.

[Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar]

But it's not a present from Santa, it's a gift from her Auntie...
I go above and beyond for the Santa gifts they ask for, but I'd be appalled if one of my kids acted like a brat because a gift they'd been given from someone else wasn't the exact version they'd decided they wanted.
Although, tbh, if they were bratty about a Santa gift I'd be a bit as well..

[gamerwidow]

I can’t see the issue here. If the SIL has said that’s unacceptable and told the OP to swap it or she wouldn’t accept it then that’s unreasonable.

Saying oh dear it’s the wrong colour give me the receipt and I’ll swap it is fine.

[Appuskidu]

At 6, it is a life or death thing if some tiny (to us) detail is wrong. There are all sorts of reasons why it might be e.g. her friend has a white one (or a black one), her dollies prefer a black one, a black one goes with her favourite coat etc. Who knows?

But if you read the thread, you'll see that the SIL says her daughter will love it, it's her that doesn't!

[questionbasket]

Bloody hell! Get a refund, and buy a jigsaw/selection box and be done with it. Adults seem more grasping and spoilt than children these days.

[gamerchick]

Or moonsand or that penguin race game. All Littllies love that penguin race game