If there's not enough food for everyone you don't choose favourites?

[apintofmilk]

I may well be being unreasonable. But I'm due a period and grumpy and hormonal. Oh and dieting.
So we went to my mums for roast dinner tonight. She knows I'm on a diet and I've been really good all week so I can enjoy a naughty home cooked roast which I've said numerous times.
Anyway we all sat down and my mum said "this ones apintofmilk's". I thought nothing of it until the end of the meal when I see my husband, sister and her husband all appear to have stuffing balls AND Yorkshire puddings on their plate and the other 3 adults (my mum dad and me) and 2 kids (too little to have stuffing to be honest) do not.
So I got a bit pissy and asked why and was told that there wasn't enough for everyone so they weren't bothered re not having any and they decided out of everyone else that I should go without. I said "well did you not think of halving Yorkshire puddings, or giving one person stuffing and one yorkshires" and they just answered "no".
I went mad. I just feel like I'm constantly bottom of the pile and was fucking annoyed they thought I should be the one to go without (not to drip feed my sister is also on a diet as we go together so nothing to do with me dieting).
Surely if you don't have enough food for all your guests then everyone should go without and they could have had the stuffing balls and yorkshires mid week on their own.
Also fuming that they tried to hide it from me and didn't explain at the start, they just tried to be sneaky and hoped I didn't notice.
Please tell me I'm not being unreasonable. I know how lucky I am that I even have a family that invite us to dinner etc etc. But tonight really fucking annoyed me.

I don't think you over reacted at all! They sound mean

Forgive yourself and move on. What does the OP need to forgive herself for - her parents have treated her like a second class guest - who is desperate enough for an invite where the hosts insult you by showing preferential treatment to others around the table, it is simply not on and those of you thinking it's ok must be pretty shit at hosting.

It’s never about the yorkshire pudding. But it sounds like it was just the straw that broke the camels back in this instance.

Exactly

Idk. I would have been in the kitchen helping so i would have divided it myself. But it seems unfair. Would have been better to announce shortage and figure it out.

I would have been hurt.

It's like people have an issue with actual words on here these days.

I'm confused as to why you'd think stuffing is nice food?

I don't understand. If you're on a diet why do you want to eat roast potatoes, stuffing and Yorkshire pudding?

class

And the lack of empathy continues. It would be funny if it wasn't so sad.

It sounds odd to invite people for roast and not do enough food for everyone. Agree stuffing and yorkshires are easily halved. It seems odd not to say something when the food is dished out though. If they're always weird with food go less often. People on diets tend to overeat when not dieting though

Justifiable madness. Sneaky, lying, food fuckery. Like being the kid with half a party bag.

I have it on good authority that the unfair division of Yorkie Puds is shat started WW1 and not the assassination of the Duke.

If my mum did this...I would block her in all social media, change the locks, LTB, Go n/c and only communicate through solicitors....until such times adequate levels of Aunt Bessies had been obtained.

OP; grow up. If you can.

Op I hope you've hidden this thread. They all behaved badly.

IT IS NOT ABOUT THE YORKSHIRE PUDDINGS

I wouldn't kick up a fuss about a frozen Yorkshire pudding and a frozen stuffing ball.

I'll join in with the face palming.

Now you've explained the background, it's clearer that it suits your family to prioritise your sister and to see you as the angry and demanding one if you don't go along with it. The only winning move in this game is not to play (as they say in Wargames). Pull back from them and don't ask for anything. It's annoying to have to do that but it means they can't play this game with you. Your husband also deserves a good talking to - he should be on your side and isn't.

All that said, you do sound slightly entitled about wanting your parents to cook exactly what you wanted, the veg for your kids etc. At someone else's house you don't get to dictate the menu. They should have shared the food out fairly, yes, but you also expected too much about general arrangements.

Go to your nearest carvery on your own and have the roast dinner you missed. Don't contact your parents or sister for a while. And make sure your husband walks in while you're eating something he particularly likes so you can say 'Not a chance' when he asks if there's any for him

Some of you are either utterly thick or don't read the thread although in some cases I suspect both.

I'm quite firey and temperamental so god knows why they constantly do things they know will upset me

That reads like "I'm an absolute nightmare and they really should pander to my moods and outbursts".

maybe they just got sick of your drama and are treating the sister who doesn't "kick off" or "go mad" nicer?

apintofmilk
50% of us understand that it's not about the Yorkshire Pudding
the rest of them can't seem to understand it at all. So just ignore them if you can.
Tbf I'm trying to ignore them but keep screaming at the screen:
IT'S NOT ABOUT THE YORKSHIRE PUDDING
So for my own sanity I must withdraw.

You have however started a catch phrase because every time someone does not get it and keep twittering on inanely .
IT'S NOT ABOUT THE YORKSHIRE PUDDING will be my deranged reply.

And Goodbye!

Itsonky the Pudding Deniers are scaring me now can I sit with you?!

Its like the dress that broke the internet the blue white thing whatever it was, only more depressing. Why can't they understand, why oh why? sobs

Staplescorner:
Both shuffle off totally deranged, mumbling that it really wasn't about Yorkshire Pudding! 😵😵😵