**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

[PhDPepper]

I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

She thought you had made it up???? What an utter stupid bitch she is! And she is pontificating to others about how upset SHE is?? She just has no shame or humility at all does she? I'd put something on facebook too.

I thought I'd seen every type of entitled and moronic"friend". I stand corrected.

Yeah, but CocoPops are sweet.....

“Perhaps you’d like to re-read your text to me in light of the fact that I did not make it up and have been through hell with chemotherapy etc. Then tell me if you still think I will be coming to your parties or writing you cheques? Actually, tell you what, I’ll make it easy for you - your behaviour has been unspeakably vile. Never, never contact me again.”

Then block.

I’ve told DH about it and he’s just asked ‘is she high’

I have blocked both now and will be focusing on packing for our holiday. I think DH will be putting the messages on Facebook with her tagged in it he’s so angry

So sorry OP.

CoraPirbrights response is perfect. Then block and enjoy your holiday.

It no less then she deserves.

Go with CoraPirbrightss response.

I am utterly, utterly gobsmacked.

Am so sorry you're dealing with all this shit.

She deserves to have the texts made public, maybe the reaction she gets on Facebook will make her realise she had been a monumental dickhead

Good (to your dh posting on fb)! They are both disgusting human beings!!! We live in the digital age, if you don't know something, it only takes two seconds to search it on google/ yahoo/ any other search engine!! Their behaviour was unbelievably insensitive!! In fact it was goading!! Please allow your dh to post on Facebook and tag these witches! He has watched you go through all of this and been by your side! He couldn't protect you from the molar pregnancy, or from chemotherapy and he can't protect you from the worries you will have in the next year. Let him protect you now! Let him get angry because he has every right to be angry at those witches!!!

You are so well rid of this absolute cunt OP.

I actually cant believe she thought you made it up!! Her behaviour is absolutely appalling even if you had had an abortion tbh, your DH should post it to FB simply to warn others off who might want a compassionate friend.

Unborn Motificado I am so, so sorry for the vicious, deplorable words of your MIL!!! How dare she accuse you of killing your beautiful baby boy. I have been there when my aunt and her ex had to make the decision to turn the ventilator off for their beautiful teenage daughter. It was unbelievably heartbreaking and so cruel that they had to choose to let her go. You MIL is deplorably wicked!!! And your relative a disgrace!!! I hope your dh hit the roof and you are now nc with such wicked individuals!!!

Omg OP! I am livid for you! I have no words

I have to admit though id send a joke cheque in the post and write " for you to educate yourself, £0 - Dr Google"

Along those lines

Enjoy your holiday OP, you're better off without that fucker x

I am absolutely astonished. What a massive cunt she is. I hope karma bites her in the bum.

I hope she comes across this thread.

He really should OP. I’m not one for airing this sort of thing in public lately but she is spreading nasty rumours about you and will probably go on to spin it when she tells people you now aren’t speaking

I really feel for you. I had a similar experience several years back and it made my loss feel so much worse. She's a proper utter cunt to do this. So sorry you're having to have this on top of what you're already feeling.

Rescue thank you, I'm sorry about your aunts daughter.

I'm at peace with my decision it was the right one for DS. I have nothing to do with ex-p and ex-MIL.

I'm still friends with the relative, unlike PhD's "friend" she apologised and has nothing to do with ex-MIL. I'm pro-life but friend can't have children at all, I could see why she was upset

Sorry PhD I was giving her the benefit of the doubt she certainly does not deserve it

OP I have had a 'friend' behave in a similar way in a similar situation. It stays with me still and that was over 20 years ago. I would go round and see her when you have had your holiday. Calmly explain what happened to you and then tell her never to contact you ever again.

You've done the right thing to block her but don't let your husband air it out on Facebook it's not necessary

I’ve told DH about it and he’s just asked ‘is she high'

Even people high as a kite wouldn't say the stupid shit this person has come out with. Jesus christ.

You're well rid, OP.

If you do put anything on FB, or if your DH does, don't name her or tag her - you immediately lose the moral high ground if you do that. It's like setting the dogs on someone. Not that she doesn't deserve to be publicly shamed, but still. Rise above.

But it might be worth putting anonymised screenshots up on FB and a bit of clarification, if you want to ensure others have clear and correct info. Particularly if it's likely this fuckwit has been talking to a lot of folk, misleading them.

Obviously you shouldn't have to do this at all and it's all a horrendous invasion and as before, I'm really sorry you've been through it.

Usually I am not for airing disputes in public BUT after her vicious, nasty little performance and then the sheer brass neck to ask if you plan to send money, I really do think she needs to be called out.

That behaviour cannot go without consequences. The fact she thinks she has the right to talk to you like that about something so personal is just appalling. I would want to know where she got the idea you'd 'made it up'. I'd also want to know why a mutual friend is butting in as well. I'd go public so anyone else she's gossiping about your loss with knows that you're onto them and their ignorance and cruelty won't be tolerated. Let the trash take itself out.

I am so sorry for your loss