**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

[PhDPepper]

I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

Even if you had had an abortion it’s fuck all to do with your friend. How dare she judge you.

Holy fucking shit

PhD I just don't have the words

Block them. They don’t deserve your friendship.
Sorry you have been through all this OP.

FFFFUUUUUUUCK! She didn't?!

I didn't think it could get worse.

So sorry OP, but at least you won't have to waste anymore time on her.

& for you

Jesus fucking Christ. What an ignorant bitch. So sorry OP.

i had a molar pregnancy 2 years ago - it is absolutely horrific. This person is an absolute idiot, self absorbed beyond belief, words fail me. i do applaud your restraint to not punch her in the face!
She isn't worth any more efford, block her, and if anybody asks why, tell them the truth: that after she heard you had a pregnancy loss she asked you for a monetary guft for her child.... what a complete asshole

can we expecet a cheque seriously?

Have you known SF long, OP? Just wondered whether she's displayed signs of being a massive twat previously.

I have no words to convey my at this cuntery.

She’s a dick. My close friend had one (although I think theirs was a partial one). I didn’t know what it was so I googled it. My only reaction was that of support and sympathy to what she may have been going through.

As other people have said even if you DID have an abortion then that’s up to you and your DH to decide. Not this bitch ex friend.

To be honest, I wouldn’t message her at all. That is opening up the conversation even more and the potential for her judgemental ass to try and apologise. She has shown her true colours. You’re better off well out of there

Just read your update. Is she joking with the birthday invite? Some people really are arseholes

I'm so sorry

Nothing gives her the right to say stuff and it wouldn't be an excuse but it's not someone else telling lies and shit stirring is it?

Last year a distance relative of my ex-p (who I used to be good friends with) started ignoring me. Turned out ex-MIL had told her I'd terminated DS1, turns out she considered me agreeing to the ventilator being turned off akin to abortion.

oh no, phDpepper thats awful. Im sorry that you went through this, but I do just want to point out that theres absolutely no excuse for her actions.
im just coming up to the 9th year of suffering infertility, its a really painful experience, BUT it hasnt given me, or anyone else struggling to give out such vitriol. I know what a molar pregnancy is, so maybe there lies the difference between my attitude and your supposed friends, but then, even if you did have an abortion its none of her fucking business to judge.

i really hope you are ok, you didnt need that shit.

I am so sorry OP, I really don't have the words for how awful this is.

After the "Can we expect a cheque?" I would go nuclear. I would post screen shots of both her messages and your reply. I would post on FB with a "this is the crap that I have had to put up with". I would go public because she is obviously talking about you and your situation to others. I would go public to set the record straight, once and for all.

I’d normally say take the moral high ground on these things but ASKING FOR A FUCKING CHEQUE?
Screen shot that shit and post it on Facebook.

She has somehow actually sat there and though 'oh, I was totally wrong about PhDPepper having an abortion...well that means everything's okay then!' without at any point realising that her treatment of you was totally appalling whether or not you had had an abortion.

The astounding level of egocentricity is truly epic.

Agreed. Screenshot the message, including the suggestion of a cheque, and re-educate your ‘friends’ on what has happened. Also perhaps print out that if you’d had an abortion it’s be none of their fucking business. Unblock them and tag them in it. Hideous shitforbrains.

out

Good lord. Just block her forever. She’s irredeemable.

OMG!! “can we expect a cheque”

Do you know, I cannot think of anything sufficiently bad to do to her in respose to that. Nothing.

Was mutual friend saying she herself was upset too, or just saying that CowFaceMcCuntChops was upset?

I’d want to take out a full page ad space in the local paper sayng “to my dear friends, a molar pg is this, and means that I had to suffer 6month of chemo instead of delighting in a much wanted baby. Please find out what things are before you decide I am a murderer, judge me and gossip about me. Thank you for making my life so much worse. Leave me alone forever, PHD”

What a terrible thing to go through.

She has shown her true colours and that she is an absolute fucking moron. Ignore and move on.

I agree with those who are saying to expose her on Facebook. People like this only stop getting away with their crap when someone shines a light on their bullshit. Post the screen shots and a link to what a molar pregnancy is.

So astounded 😮
Speechless

I’d do nothing about this for now my love, let things settle, and see how you feel in a week.

You don’t need the Aggro in your life

I had no idea what a molar pg was, and I’m horrified at the sound of it. If a friend of mine said this, at the very least I’d ask because I’d not heard of it.

Then I’d apologise for not knowing, I’d express my sympathy, ask what I could do to help, and then do it.

That’s what friends do.

Dear God, she has the hide of a rhino and the all compassion and intelligence of a Coco Pop. In your shoes, I would find it hard not to tell everyone what a truly horrible bitch she is.