To refuse lift to smoker because she smells?

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Obviously not as blunt as that but she lights up just before getting in the car and it stinks. So AIBU to tell her to get the bus if she can't wait?

When I was a teacher in primary I could tell the children who lived with smokers by the smell when they opened their book bags to read to me. In the days when there was smoking in pubs, I’d have to put my coat out on the washing line when I got back because it would stink the house out by the time I got up the next morning.

What's being claimed here by a few people is that the mere presence of someone who was previously smoking can be detected days (someone earlier went into weeks) later. That's crap

No, it's not.

My dad is a heavy smoker, 40+ a day. He never smokes inside and wears clean clothes every day.

But I hate having him over because he stinks and I can smell the faint whiff of fags in my living room for a good couple of days after he's been - from whichever chair or sofa he sat on.

When I stopped smoking, the biggest shock I got was about 3 weeks later when I realised my hair straighteners STANK of fags. The thing is, I have never smoked inside at all and I only ever use the straighteners on freshly washed hair...literally never on day old hair or after I'd smoked, only immediately after showering and hair drying my hair. Yet they still picked up the smell.

If you're a smoker, even only one a day, it will be impossible for you to realise just how strongly cigarettes stink or how the smoke permeates everything.

I really don't understand how so many smokers when faced with stories from people talking about their loved ones smelling of smoke can say it's not true.

All the none smokers aren't lying why would we? Smokers smell end of. Be it the eBay package, the clothes you wore or where you sat.

I don't like the smell of smoke but it's not as bad as most perfumes. Instant migraine.

I wouldn't refuse to give someone a lift because they smelt of smoke or perfume though. I'd open the windows if I could but otherwise I'd put up with it then take a triptan.

I dont smoke and hate the smell but I couldn't leave my friend to get a bus when i could easily give her a lift. So yes although it's not a nice smell I do think u are being unreasonable

YADNBU

Smokers, you stink. And just think about all the unnecessary hospital trips you will be subjecting your DC to as they ferry you back and forth to the lung clinic/to get oxygen bottles because you've chosen to KILL YOURSELF.

My Mother watched her Dad kill himself with cigarettes and she's forcing me to go through the same with her. I don't smoke and i'm incredibly angry.

My goodness there are some people here who must live some super-righteous lives!
OP sounds like there's bit more to this, I would always give a friend a lift if I could.....

I just keep imagining an army of hyacinth buckets walking the streets of Britain holding their nose and huffing at the sight of a tab

I was imagining someone straddling their sofa days after a smoker had sat on it, burying their heads deep into the upholstery and taking a huge deep breath and then gagging and exclaiming how disgusting smokers are etc etc and how they can still smell smoke (even though if they can, it's probably very subtle!)

Well there are some quite unpleasant people on this thread.

Did OP ever come back with what she was going to do/who this person was/why a lift was wanted?

Why does it matter diddl?

Who they are doesn't matter. The fact they smoke does.

Just an idea, but maybe this is one for Mythbusters, or Brainiac ?

Have a carefully controlled experiment to determine just how long and how much cigarette smoke lingers. Sort of:

MYTH: A smoker, sitting in a non-smokers car for (say) 20 minutes leaves traces of smoke odour that linger for up to minutes.

Won't change anyones mind, of course. But be fun to watch. Especially if it could get the old gang together .

And I wouldn't have a smoke smelling workman in my house

Nor would I, given a choice. If a smelly smoker turned up from say British Gas or BT where I had no choice, obviously I'd have to accept it (but would leave windows and doors wide open!), but if it was, say, a few trades-persons coming to give quotes, then I'd actively put the smelly ones at the bottom of the list.

It does matter, whether this person is a random person at your work who asks for a lift versus your best friend.
I hate the awkwardness of lift sharing, I had to be blunt with a few people and just say I didn't want to share with them anymore, not giving a reason as the real reason was that they drove me crazy.

"Who they are doesn't matter. The fact they smoke does."

Ok-just looked back at the OP-do you already give them a lift & they soke just before getting in the car?

If you've had enough-just tell them then.

No lift if they've just had a fag.

Wow.

Some of you are nasty and so precious. But in reality I doubt you’d have the balls to refuse a relative, friend or colleague a lift in your car because they’d just put out a fag.

I am quite an easy-going person and like to help people, however I just couldn't cope with having a smoker in my car. The smell of nicotine makes me feel sick. And the smell lingers.

I would decline to give her a lift, but tell her why. Delicately. You never know, it might just help her if she is already thinking of giving up smoking. Nobody likes to hear that they smell.

What's nasty about asking someone not to have a fag just before they get in your car?

But in reality I doubt you’d have the balls to refuse a relative, friend or colleague a lift in your car because they’d just put out a fag

Don't have relatives or friends who smoke thankfully. I work for myself so no need for lifts.

That said if someone had just had a fag I would have no compunction in, if they asked for a lift, saying "sorry, I'm afraid I can't". I don't think that requires the slightest amount of "balls" to be honest.

So you’re driving home in the rain at night and see someone you know walking, you stop to offer a lift but then smell fags and say “ nope sorry forget that and drive off “

Who would do that?

What's nasty about asking someone not to have a fag just before they get in your car?
Because that's not what people are suggesting.
People are saying no to lift to a person who smokes fullstop.
( or even letting them into your house).

That’s unhinged.

I wouldn't refuse someone a lift who'd just had a cigarette, but neither would I be happy having to share an enclosed space with them. Some smokers really are in denial about just how bad they smell. The ones who aren't spray so much perfume on themselves you can smell them from miles away.

"Who would do that?"

Prbably me due to asthma

I don't believe that someone sitting in your car after smoking will make your car smell of smoke for days, weeks or months.

I quit smoking years ago and I have had my friend in my car not long after she has smoked and I can smell it sitting next to her but I have never smelled smoke days later in my car. At work most of the people I support smoke. They smoke outdoors then sit on the sofa. Inside never smells of smoke.

My friend who smokes only smokes outside and her house does not smell of smoke at all. Surely her sofa should reek of cigarettes according to most people here?

Smoking does smell but I don't believe that someone smoking before being in the car will transfer that smell to your car for any length of time.