To refuse lift to smoker because she smells?

[florapearl]

Obviously not as blunt as that but she lights up just before getting in the car and it stinks. So AIBU to tell her to get the bus if she can't wait?

Some people are just born fuckin mean.

Argh, tricky. Need more info :)

How close a friend? A proper friend or more a ‘friendly acquaintance’?

What do you care more about: The friendship or the smell? Be honest with yourself here, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with finding something so unbearable you cannot ignore / minimise/ Whatever.

Make a decision you’ll feel comfortable with and can cope with whatever fall out there might be.

Then stick to it.

What about garlic breath or a whiff of ethanol after a night of excess?

Smokers aren't welcome in my car either. They usually stink and the smell lingers. A car is too small a place. Opening windows etc isn't a solution either as the seat fabric will stink where they've sat. Smokers just don't realise how vile it is to non smokers.

I am a smoker and even I would say you should say no. If my mum or anyone who doesn't smoke (or even if they do) offers me a lift somewhere I never smoke just before getting in the car. And I'm conscious of the smell I know I have after smoking - always have perfume or body spray to hand to try and mask it a bit, my indoor and outdoor clothes yet washed regularly and I always have breath mints if I'm going out with people who don't smoke. This smoker is being really selfish - you no doubt put your child/ren in that car so obviously wouldn't want it stinking for that reason alone. I would politely ask her not to smoke before getting in your car for x reasons and if she doesn't agree then drive off while she smoking!

You don’t allow smokers in your house or car ?! smokers are not lepers and I’m sure a bit of frebreeze will get rid of any lingering smells -I’m not a smoker btw I just can’t believe that people are so mean to people

I hope your car isn't an atmospheric polluter because exhaust fumes stink

I've driven past friends stood at bus stops when i have seen them smoking as I really don't want my car smelling of it. It makes me nauseous and the smell takes months to go!

Oh for goodness sake!
What is is about MN and smokers? Complete over-reaction.
I can't believe in the space of about 25 years, we have gone from allowing smoking pretty much anywhere to quibbling about one smoker (who was not even smoking!) sitting in a car.
A sense of proportion is a useful life skill, I find.

For Victoire - Definition of Pearl clutcher: A prim, prudish, or easily offended person.

I'm not prim, prudish or easily offended. However, I dislike the smell of cigarette smoke. Considerate smokers, like @KH369, are more than welcome in my car. Inconsiderate ones are not.

Tell her you will give her a lift but she can’t smoke just before getting in you car, perhaps?

cathf I find I don't believe these threads. I don't believe people are so horrible IRL. It's just forum bravado I think.

I think it’s mean. I’m a non-smoker but I would never consider not giving a lift to my smoking friends. Completely different scenario if the lit up in the car though.

YANBU. When a smoker has had a ciggie, they STINK, for at least half an hour. Just tell her that you're really sorry, but the smell makes you heave, and could she have it half hour before she gets in your car.

Then take it from there. See if that's any better.

Yawn. These threads always make me want to restart smoking to be one of the cool kids again.

I can't stand smoking or anything related. it's a disgusting habit and my whole family when I was growing up smoked and I was trapped around it.

I don't expect them to not smoke in their own homes/cars and as such I expect them to not smoke in my house or car if it is my condition.

They can stink out their own property but not mine.

Don't even get me started on smokers extra breaks at work!

Don't be silly @millmoo of course smokers are not lepers, but people are entitled to not want the smell of smoke in their car, especially as it lingers. And some smokers stink of smoke permanently.

Some smokers - not all - are selfish and entitled.

What if it was your mum, or your sister?

I would never allow anyone in my car, my house or near me who smokes. They stink like old ash trays and I certainly would not want to join that crew.!! Dirty habit..

A group of us meet weekly for lunch and two of the friends smoke. They stink, especially straight after having a cigarette and we all clamber to not sit next to them when we arrive at the venue.
My DH can always smell the whiff of cigarettes on me when I get home.
So, I’m with you OP.

FGS I'm with OP here.

There's no way I could share a car with a person who'd just finished a fag. I'd be heaving within a minute. It's FOUL. I really couldn't be in an enclosed space with that. And I'm no pearl clutcher. It really does stink and it makes me feel utterly nauseous.

And yes, it does last more than a minute or two! It makes a place stink.

Would you tell them that though tweedy? Thanks for popping by for a cuppa- you can't come in though because you smell.

I smoke in my car. I don't expect lifts from anyone.
People on MN seem to have the most sensitive noses on earth. Smoke, shits that tradesmen do etc. etc. It's comical.