To ignore her?

[AwayInLalaLand]

I received a series of Facebook message recently from a woman I don't know at all and have no mutual friends with. Apparently, in 2011, I went on four dates with her current boyfriend.

Her messages are very long and she asks a series of personal questions including did he get you pregnant? Did you have an abortion? She asks because "he can't remember". I didn't respond and she's been messaging since calling me unfair for not answering.

I never slept with him.

She is saying it's upsetting him not knowing if he has a child and I owe him an explanation. Funnily enough he has messaged me or attempted to contact me in anyway. She has given me her mobile number and is demanding I call her.

Am I being unreasonable ignoring her and just blocking her or should I respond and fix his memory? I just feel that six years later it's ridiculous to message me out of the blue about impossibilities.

I think OP has done the right thing by not responding at all except with the screen shots. I would have added do not contact this person or face police action. I wouldn't even let them know they had the right person. No one has the right to personal information from a stranger and 14 messages is nuts and scary. There is no need for her to try to help this stranger. Just engaging with her might make it all worse. She isn't rational and might not believe the truth anyway.

Completely different opinion from most people but I would have been really direct. My response would have been along the lines of "Goodness you sound very upset. Can I ask why on earth you are asking me these questions? They are very personal and having not had any contact with xxx for xxx years, I am really confused as to why you would be messaging me out of the blue like this".

George, so let’s say you want a baby but you and dp haven’t conceived despite trying. You ask him if he has ever made someone pg, and he doesn’t know for sure, you immediately think “right, I’ll find all his exes and ask them. If they don’t reply immediately I’ll harass them”.

No, you don’t. You go to your gp, your dp has a test to check his sperm count.

Your scenario, if you are right (unlikely as hell) is even more reason to ensure these people never ever ever get further into op’s life.

Precisely, George, even if you're correct it's still very bizarre behaviour.

George- good call on using the number to search on FB, that would explain it.

Feckwit you are asking the person to respond, inviting trouble given 14 not nice messages in less than a day. Then what reason could ever justify this nutty behavior? I wouldn't even want to know....

A direct response would be "fuck off you crazy stranger". Not all this woolly bollocks.

God, which ever 3rd party is stirring this pot is the one they need to be really weary of!

Hopefully you’re rid of it now x

It wouldn't be my number either - it's not on Fb and I've never had it on there. I doubt he still has my number I don't have his. It's really strange. One good thing about it all though the boyfriend bought me lots of chocolate :)

hope this has all has gone away...

So far all is quiet :) thank you xx

to chocolate.

Omg son't respond to anything amd block her immediately! She sounds a bit stalkery

Kittens If you' re going to be late to the party, you need to RTFT

i know this has been said, but when something similar happened to my friend's bf (now her DH), [being harassed by an ex] the police advice was to send one message stating clearly that you did not wish to be contacted further. Until this was stated, the police wouldn't act. Once the bf sent that message, and she carried on messaging and emailing him (several times a day) the police paid her a visit.
Then it stopped.

I also suspect the message from the ex came from her.

Bloody hell. I wouldn't be giving an aggressive stranger any personal details whatsoever on Facebook. I can't believe so many of you would. It's absolutely nothing to do with her who you've slept with. You owe nobody that level of detail.

Exactly what reanimated said.

Please oh please for the sake of us lacking in drama in our life.. unblock her!! This is the perfect opportunity for a bit of crazy time!

CeCe. . This is someone’s life. If you want drama, I’m sure you can find some elsewhere.

Omw it was a very light hearted comment mummyoflittledragon!
I was making light of an otherwise pretty mental situation that OP has found herself in. I don't really think that it will have any negative effects on OP's life thankfully though. Had the drama been on her side I'm pretty sure there would not have been any way of making it light hearted.

I'm amazed the ex hasn't responded to at least say sorry, he must be livid

I don't think it was the ex that messaged..

I would have said "you owe me a bloody apology" after sending the screenshots.

that ex really needs to do some apologising.. although it still wouldn't explain where on earth she got the notion from! oddest thing.

Oh God op this thread has genuinely scared me and I'm not even on FB. Hope you are OK. I think you've handled this perfectly.