To ignore her?

[AwayInLalaLand]

I received a series of Facebook message recently from a woman I don't know at all and have no mutual friends with. Apparently, in 2011, I went on four dates with her current boyfriend.

Her messages are very long and she asks a series of personal questions including did he get you pregnant? Did you have an abortion? She asks because "he can't remember". I didn't respond and she's been messaging since calling me unfair for not answering.

I never slept with him.

She is saying it's upsetting him not knowing if he has a child and I owe him an explanation. Funnily enough he has messaged me or attempted to contact me in anyway. She has given me her mobile number and is demanding I call her.

Am I being unreasonable ignoring her and just blocking her or should I respond and fix his memory? I just feel that six years later it's ridiculous to message me out of the blue about impossibilities.

OP, are you sure that it is actually him messaging you now, and not her pretending to be him?

My first thought too.....

Precisely under

No idea who the messages are from. Block both

To be honest I'd quite enjoy winding her up! But that's me!

Ok this has taken a different turn altogether. I’m one of the posters who gave the girlfriend the benefit of the doubt but now I’d block them as they both (presuming there actually are two people and I’m inclined to think this is a ruse to get you to respond) may take you down the harassment route, if it escalates any further I’d have a word with my community policeman and log it somewhere.

monkeywithacowface

this message suggestion is Fantastic.... these people sounds nuts ..

I would do what you say send the screen shots and then say you don’t want to hear from either of them again and you will be taking it further is either of them persist

Do not respond to anything from either of them.

Block and stay safe

I'd be sending the screen shots to him, with the name not blocked out or there could be doubt they are from her, I'd request he replies to say he's received them and then give him 20 minutes to digest and apologise before blocking him too!

I would also, erring on the side of caution, ring 101 or whatever the non emergency police number is for you, and report this, dates and times of messages and how persistent she's been, I would ask them to give it a crime ref number just in case.
Don't want to scare you but it does happen, a lot more frequently than you'd realise.

I agree with monkeyface and would send send copies of her messages along with that message. He can deal with what happens next.

Her=gf

I think what he's done is used you as an excuse/cover for something he's said or done.
Given his gf the impression that there is relevant history between you both which is why he did/said whatever he did...refusing to pay her the correct amount of maintenance perhaps?
His gf, being insecure, possessive and batshit decided to contact you for confirmation.

She's told him lies about you contacting/giving info to her

Personally, i'd block both of them and leave them to their pathetic games.
Or.....send him only one message - stating that you will report them both to the police for harassment if they carry on.
You don't need to explain yourself to either of them.

Don't respond in any way whatsoever.

Block them both. With any luck it will all die down when there's no reply from you.

Then if it escalates or they try some other method of contacting you, then you have proof (if you need it for the police) that you have never contacted either of them at all, and that it is you who is being harassed.

I only blanked her information out when sending to my bf because he got really annoyed about it (and slightly protective) so I didn't think giving him her details would be clever as he may escalate things xx

Yes id send him the screenshots, tell him you don't know what's going on, but you don't want anymore hassle from either of them, and any more contact from them and you'll log it with the police.

Block. It is unwanted communication.

Send ex screen shots.

How do I place mark? Newb alert!

Just message her back saying:

Not that it’s any of your business, but your boyfriend and I never slept together. Do not message me again, if you do, I will be forced to pass your details onto the police and have you cautioned for harassment.

I think it’s a good idea to send him the screenshots and then block him aswell. She sounds seriously disturbed, if it’s because of his behaviour he’ll know that already, if she’s been inventing unnecessary drama then you’ve at least given him a heads up.

ignore, ignore.
if it gets worse call the police non-emergency helpline.

Nothing at all good can come of this if you engage with either of these two people in any way or you will open up a can of worms. Block them both and move on, they are toxic and whatever their problem is it's not yours. They have been stalking you since it's unwanted contact.

No, I wouldn't reply to anything.
After all, as you said, you didn't even know she existed until she messaged you, you don't know her from Adam, and don't know how she got your details. There might even be a possibility that the original messages weren't from her at all, but from him.

Don’t acknowledge any of it. Screen shot everything. If there’s any more contact take said screen shots to police and let them deal with it