To ignore her?

[AwayInLalaLand]

I received a series of Facebook message recently from a woman I don't know at all and have no mutual friends with. Apparently, in 2011, I went on four dates with her current boyfriend.

Her messages are very long and she asks a series of personal questions including did he get you pregnant? Did you have an abortion? She asks because "he can't remember". I didn't respond and she's been messaging since calling me unfair for not answering.

I never slept with him.

She is saying it's upsetting him not knowing if he has a child and I owe him an explanation. Funnily enough he has messaged me or attempted to contact me in anyway. She has given me her mobile number and is demanding I call her.

Am I being unreasonable ignoring her and just blocking her or should I respond and fix his memory? I just feel that six years later it's ridiculous to message me out of the blue about impossibilities.

I was one the PP’s suggesting you message her to put her out if her misery.

However, in light of your latest update I’d be blocking them both without making any contact.

You have no idea if they are who they say they are (it could’ve been him all along, or her) any reaction could fuel things.

I would send him the screen shots and tell him briefly that you haven't and have no intention of responding to her and neither will you be responding to him again after this message. Then block him too.

Send him the screen shots and let him deal with it. If it’s the gf posing as him, you are still not making contact with her, just merely showing her you have proof she’s batshit crazy!

My guess is he knew nothing about all this until she came up with the story about you in boxing him when she failed to get a response. Advise blocking both.

I'd just be concerned, when she seems so desperate to get a reply from you with her incessant messaging. That if you do just block them both without replying, that she could escalate to trying to contact you in other ways. Outwith social media and in person.

I'd send him the pics of he screenshots saying I want no further unwanted contact from either of you or I will contact the police.

Message her and say we didn't even sleep together. Don't contact me again or I will contact the police about harassment.

Then block them both as soon as you can.

Send ex the screen shots and demand an apology. Then tell then both to leave you the fuck alone or you'll go to the police about them harassing you. They sound horrific. And very classy, obviously.

Block both! I am gobsmacked that anyone thinks a total stranger is entitled to demand answers to intrusive inappropriate questions. That is batshit territory. I’ve sadly been too kind in the past and entertained similar nonsense. I could have saved myself a lot of unnecessary stress if I had not engaged and blocked from the off. We really don’t know who is who or even real in this whole situation. It might have been him all along, maybe in some weird ‘it could have been me and the OP’ regret and started some unhinged stalking and catfishing the OP or any number of whacko scenarios. It is one thing to answer a polite simple query but going from 0-200 in a matter of 24 hours and escalating to abusive and threatening messages should be a clear indicator to stay the hell away. I would presume if it was the unhinged woman initially messaging you and getting blocked then she is probably trying to get a reaction via her BF’s FB account. Don’t get embroiled in this drama. I’d not waste a second on some dude I had 4 dates with several years ago.

If you have HIS info to contact. Forward HER msgs and also remind him that you did not do anything that would expose you to this.

He either: lied and said it was you or confused you with someone else OR one of his ??? Gave your name.

Then block both.

Unhinged. Block both.
Keep screenshots though and a timeline / log of what you got and when - you may need it for police.
And keep eye on weird happenings - some don’t give up :(

Don't respond to him either.

It may be her trying to get information another way. Otherwise why completely lie about you upsetting her when you have the proof sitting there.

Block him without a response.

Don't get caught up in what ever the fuck their relationship is. You will only come out the wrong end of it.

Ask her if she's on glue, then block her

You say there have been loads of messages: what exactly was the content of them all, beyond the 'did you have his child' query?

It's possible that this is an online scam. Suggest you block and forget.

Wtf is with earlier replies on here?! Never ever engage with people like this! Engagement never settles their mimds because its already unhinged. Screenshot it all and block and tell people op dont keep this quiet.

I really wouldn’t engage at all. Delete, block and move on. It’s what they need to do!

I would err in the side and of kindness as maybe she is struggling

One message - short and factual and concise to say NO to everything and then tell her you are blocking her

Ignore me

Who ever is behind this is testing the water trying to gain access to your life for some reason. Do not respind to either of them at all. Screenshot and block and maybe change fb name/photo again to see if that throws them off rhe scent and be careful if you are linked to any groups about where you live. And your BF needs to be more understanding.

I'd send non-ex the screenshots and ask him to get her some help.

myotherprofile What if he is actually she? Op should not engage with either of them. Its the first thing police will tell you. Dont engage with harrassers or stalkers at all.

Sounds like the ex is weird indicating this was possible in the first place, how would he not remember . You may have had a lucky escape and she’s really distressed because he’s taunting her.

Block him too OP. Don't respond.

I don't think this is her because if she were fishing for info she wouldn't send that message. I do think she has somehow heard about you and has told him a lie about you contacting her, hoping to get him to admit to something. Does he name the girlfriend?

Keep her blocked, tell him you received umpteen increasingly aggressive and bizarre messages from her in 24 hours out of the blue and you have not replied or had any contact with her at all/have blocked her. You are now blocking him and do not expect to hear from either of them again or you will take it further.

Don't engage.

You don't know who you're dealing with, and 14 messages in 24 hours is unhinged. If this woman is not well (and it sounds like she isn't), your telling her the truth will not satisfy her. She'll just think your lying and continue to "dig" for more.

Just read Crazies's story for a good example of this.