To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

Your child also would not have expired if you had to go somewhere less obvious.

I know someone who would put her child on her lap then take her breast out fully and then sort of lower it on the child to feed. Now why would you do that?
Its personal and intimate process between mother and child.
And if you feel the need to take your boob out like this on show for everyone then it is attention seeking and nothing else.
The whole breastfeeding mafia is getting completely OTT.
And yes i have a small child myself whom i breastfed and am expecting a 2nd whom i intend to breastfeed also. But not in your face

You haven't answered why your delicate sensibilities should affect the choices of breastfeeding women?

@silverbell64 groundbreaking ideas there - hide the breastfeeders

@silverbell64 peak time? So I'm only allowed out the house at off peak times incase I offend your delicate eyes? Jeeze I wish I knew! I just sat there and fed my child and didn't give a fuck about you... my bad!

You know that it's not great to do this. You can up the anti until you go blue in the face or your veins pop out of your breasts. We all know about decorum in any situation.

@SnowWhite33 I can think of several reasons, none of them being "attention seeking".

And even if someone was attention seeking then so what? It doesn't matter! Just don't look, and get on with your day.

Your child also would not have expired if you had to go somewhere less obvious.

Fortunately I didn't have to go anywhere, I was perfectly within my legal right to sit wherever the hell I wanted and feed my child.

They may not have 'expired' without that feed but I bet you're also the type of person who whinges about a baby crying and demands the parent does something about it... but not give the baby exactly what they need because it may offend you

Can anyone at all explain what exactly feeding indiscreetly is? What percentage of breast has to be on show for it to be indiscreet?
I see more breast on page 3 or in town on a Saturday night than I ever have with someone breastfeeding.

You know that it's not great to do this. You can up the anti until you go blue in the face or your veins pop out of your breasts. We all know about decorum in any situation.

You know you're a twat, yes?

@silverbell64 evidently we don’t all know, because most of us think it’s ok to feed our hungry babies, even in Starbucks, at peak time, with (gasp) a whole boob

@silverbell64 you're failing to hide your disgust of women's bodies there.

I know someone who would put her child on her lap then take her breast out fully and then sort of lower it on the child to feed. Now why would you do that?

Because that was the most comfortable position for baby and mum? Because it was the easiest/only way to get a latch? Because she was hoping to steal your husband with a flash of her nipple? Take your pick.

@SnowWhite33 it was probably one of the only ways she could get the baby to latch or she possibly couldn’t hold the baby in her arms for a long time for some reason. I doubt it was so everyone would have a good gawp at her

This is what the 'discreet' posse remind me of!

Assassinated I agree that the feeding of a child should take priority over the observers sensibilities but can you genuinely not conceive of a circumstance where it’s not the feeding of the baby that’s at stake but just occasionally that woman might want to make a point ?

Now I'm disgusted with my body? I love my body. Im saying that we all live in this world and a bit of discretion doesn't go a miss.

Its not all about a breast feeding mother.

What point do you think someone might be making taratil?

@taratill the only time people try to make a 'point' is when there is a point to be made. Breastfeeding is not wrong or dirty or disgusting, people are just trying to raise awareness of it!

@AssassinatedBeauty well its hard not to look if its directly in your face. Am i supposed to look at the carpet on the floor whilst trying to eat my food? And if i go to a nice restaurant to enjoy nice food and am prepared to spend quite some money for a nice experience i most certainly dont want someone else's boon in my face

@silverbell64 so who is it about? It's not about the mother... the baby clearly won't 'expire' so it's obviously not about them... is it all about you?

laurie we’ve been here before. It’s fine to assert a legal right to breastfeed. If you have no imagination beyond that then that says more about you than me

Its not all about a breast feeding mother.

Well the law protects a woman's right to breastfeed in public, not your sensibilities. So yes, it is about the breastfeeding mother (her rights trump yours).

What's wrong with women making points?