To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

There is no point whatsoever in entering into a discussion if your opinion is not 'whack them out wherever you like, it's the only way to do it'. There is no middle ground, you are either the above, or you're an anti-breastfeeding/baby-eating monster. Unfortunately, this doesn't stop people in the real world having these feelings.

Muzzles are a middle class thing. Ive always had a bib.

Why does it give you rage? I never knew one existing when i had kids, we didn't have them, aren't they a middle class thing?
was that to me? If so, it's a ridiculous abbreviation of a word which is already easy enough to say and not very long. I have nothing against muslins if people want to buy them. I didn't because I never felt the need. And I certainly don't need to call them "muzzies".

I think it's perfectly acceptable to show as much or as little of your breast as you want when feeding but I also live in the real world and can understand that others have different degrees of comfort about seeing a woman breastfeeding. I might not have a problem with it but I'm mature enough to understand that others may be uncomfortable.

In a different scenario last weekend I was the person who was uncomfortable with what I was seeing. My DH and I were at the supermarket on a very warm day (we live in a warm part of the world) and a young woman walked past us wearing tiny denim cut-off shorts. They were TINY, as in the bottom half of her bum cheeks were on display. It really was hard not to stare at her well-endowed bum cheeks as she walked in front of us. My DH was even a bit uncomfortable and we turned to each at the same moment and asked "Am I getting old?" because we weren't sure if we were being old-fashioned (we are only in our late thirties!) or was she dressed too inappropriately? Not the same thing as breastfeeding of course!

I dont think muslins are a middle class thing

You keeping on saying that they are doesnt make it so

How are they middle class

I might not have a problem with it but I'm mature enough to understand that others may be uncomfortable.

I understand that some people have a problem with breastfeeding, I just don't give a shit.

The language used by those preaching discretion is so telling (and depressing). 'Tatas', 'Norks', 'Whack em out'.

It's a troubling reflection on your relationship with breasts.

@LaurieMarlow's post at 20:39 explains very very clearly why the possible discomfort of a stranger is irrelevant when it comes to breastfeeding. I'd like all these "discreet" obsessives to explain how they disagree with that post.

What pooryorick said

I do feel sorry that people have such issues with breastfeeding in public, but they need to make a concentrated effort to get over it

laurie no I’m one of the posters you object to but have never called a Brest anything other than a breast.

Laurie is right, here and previously.

Also agree that an exhausted breastfeeding new mother who's recovering from pregnancy and labour/C section and any related interventions really doesn't give a shit about trying to titillate idiots.

Never felt the need to preach. Never felt the need to post whacky images, never felt the need to think getting my tits out in public unless discreetly to breast feed.

All very normal here.

I did have a freind that had to feed in the rugby ball position with nipple guards

That was a bit more difficult to be discrete...but fear not, she didnt go out much

silverbell I agree , sometimes I feel an alternative reality on MN

@Rainbunny what part of her bum made you uncomfortable? Why were you uncomfortable? It's just a bum cheek. I presume you have them?
You see way more than that at the beach

Is it a coincidence that the BBC is running a piece on whether you “agree” with breastfeeding in public? Absolutely infuriating that this should be considered a question at all.

Basically what posters seem to be saying is that they don't mind women breastfeeding but they won't tolerate those women feeling OK about it.

silverbell I agree , sometimes I feel an alternative reality on MN

I have never ever ever seen a womans breasts out in public while feeding her baby

The alternative reality is those posters that seem to see it on a frequent enough basis to post as such

never felt the need to think getting my tits out in public unless discreetly to breast feed.

I sunbathed topless on a Croatian beach once. Felt absolutely sublime. I was careful with the sunblock. I'd do it again, I loved it. If that's wrong, I don't want to be right.

Breastfed in public too. Nobody ever cared.

So if we sit looking anxious and apologetic we get a metaphorical pat on the head? Otherwise we are ostentatious and need put back in our place

gengis that’s your spin on it. It’s patently NOT what is being said.

@Silverbell @taratil just because you didn’t feel the need to share pictures and were able to be more ‘discreet’ why is it ok to judge others who do want to share pictures or don’t feel the need to be discreet?

Rufus I have as mentioned up thread

Lol that’s funny I have some pictures of me bf I’m very proud of them !

I'm quite happy to be clear that if you judge women for not being discreet enough according to your personal definition, then you are part of the problem. Yes, you are anti breastfeeding.

Of course some people will feel uncomfortable or embarrassed about seeing breastfeeding. But that is solely their own issue to deal with. They have no right, legally or morally, to impose their