To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

What on earth is the purpose of that hat that looks like a boob??

Ime most women are discreet when feeding in public, I’ve never seen a full breast on display personally. I think those who do show everything are making some kind of statement or point because there’s actually no need to do this. It’s deliberate.

As someone with FF breasts who breastfed for 16 months everywhere and anywhere without any sort of cover of specialist clothing I agree with you, YANBU.

It's really not that difficult and there isn't really any need to whack the whole thing out. One top up, one top down sorted.

Thats not the point is it Madbum.

I have breasts and rather large ones at that. Do I want to see breasts when having a coffee. No I don't.

A muzzie is a must!

I always just lifted top and used that to cover Boob not covered by baby. Baby hopefully covered most of belly.
But that is more about me than anyone else. Each person to their own.
Even with whole boob out you are still showing less than being topless on a beach.
So Yabu

see more breast when I'm browsing instagram or "celeb" news than when I see women breastfeeding. Do you feel as uncomfortable with tiny triangle bikini tops or people in sheer nipple exposing tops? Just curious..

I don’t see any fully exposed breasts whilst browsing celeb articles or what have you, no. I’m not talking about the majority (it seems) of women who are very discrete about it/you wouldn’t really know they’re doing it unless baby had some trouble etc.

I’m talking about people who just whip the whole thing out.

Oh and what’s more, I’ve never seen celebs nearly nude or what have you whilst out for a meal etc. That’s simply not true

Bloody women. Never discreet enough are they?

OP YANBU - many mums BF without any issue, some seem to do it without exposing anything which amazes me but the clothes and their ability to get baby latched on must be spectacular. Many do it with a little exposure, as stated before there is nothing wrong with a glimpse of boob. This is fine everywhere (where babies are allowed)

Then there are those who seem to want to waft their boobs around, strip to the waist and make a fuss. Usually IME in quiet posh places where I am not sure if they are doing it to get a reaction or just because they don't give a dam.

Mind you they will be the ones who when the baby is a toddler let them stand on chairs and run around the restaurant.

What on earth is the purpose of that hat that looks like a boob??

To induce laughter amongst those blessed with a sense of humour.

I'm always amazed by these threads. I mean, I've never, ever seen someone BF with a whole breast on display. Women I encounter get enough uncovered to latch their baby on and get on with it. Yet every month or so we get one of these threads on MN where apparently someone is treating BF as some sort of burlesque floor show, stopping the traffic and frightening the horses.. I'm sure you're in good faith, OP, but I can't help wonder what proportion of these threads are started by GF.

If people are uncomfortable with it they can look away. There's no need to keep looking...

Is ok to be on holiday topless on a beach and have a tiny thong and flip flops, or largely bare breasts on the red carpet or in a pop video, but the moment a breast is seen in a non-sexual way oh my mercy, get it covered!

This society has a fucked up idea of what is and is not acceptable.

I know what you mean.

I have zero issues with people breastbfeeding in public. It is natural and if anyone thinks seeing a boob is sexual or inappropriate then it reflects on them.

However, I also don't like it when people do 'look at me' type things. So a woman hoiking her top so baby can feed, fine. There may be a flash of nipple. Couldn't care less.
Whereas a woman sitting with her entire tit out just feels a bit 'look at me. I'm breastfeeding don't you know'.

Then again I feel thr same about photos on facebook. Out and about and you have a photo taken when you are feeding baby, cool.

Posed photo of you entirely topless taken so everyonr can see baby latching onto nipple with a caption 'lovely time for mummy milk #breastfeeding #milkycuddles #boobtime' makes me go
Like, ok, good. We get you BF.

It's not the fact of breastfeeding, it's the fact that breastfeeding boobs are big and blue veined and positively ugly

So? Lots of faces are ugly but we don’t ask people to cover them.

PricklyBall I’m not a GF, and I agree that most women are extremely discrete etc, as I am and everyone I know that breastfeeds because a little consideration isn’t difficult.

As previously said, getting the whole thing out and whatever else isn’t needed at all.

OP, while you think you're being oh so reasonable, your position puts additional pressure on bf mothers.

Posts like yours make mothers worry, am I being discrete enough, did I show some boob there, can I wear this top out feeding?

Having a small baby and bf is stressful enough without having to worry about other people's delicate sensibilites. The worst thing that might happen is that they see a bit of boob. So the fuck what? They'll live.

What on earth is the purpose of that hat that looks like a boob??

Its to keep the baby's head warm.

If people feel uncomfortable they can use their fully functioning neck muscles to look the fuck away.

How the fuck do you “waft” your breast?

I really don't care. I think more people bf like described in your op might help bf rates? Boob are all over ever sort of media but people only get offended when they're feeding a baby?!

Your posts make no sense at all.

I'm guessing you mean discreet, not discrete?

Even if you were to use the word correctly your attitude still stinks.

YABU

it's up to each Women if she wants to breast feed, whether she wants to do so in public, and whether she wants to cover up

If you don't want to see then don't fucking look it's really not that hard

Op....the word is discreet.

Discrete has an entirely different meaning.

Humans have these amazing things called necks that allow them to turn their gaze away from something that bothers them, for instance, a person in a restaurant. Mobile phone use at tables is far more anti social and more likely to ruin your meal out.

OP, while you think you're being oh so reasonable, your position puts additional pressure on bf mothers.

Posts like yours make mothers worry, am I being discrete enough, did I show some boob there, can I wear this top out feeding?

Rubbish - I have very clearly said most people are discrete. A bit of flesh to be seen is no problem.

That’s not what I’ve said at all. I’ve specifically described someone who just takes the whole thing out without a single bit of discretion. The whole thing on show.

Not a bit of flesh that we all end up showing a quick bit of when baby latches etc