To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

[Sunbeam18]

If people are uncomfortable then they don't have to look

[StepAwayFromGoogle]

There used to be a woman at my baby sensory class who was still breastfeeding her toddler. Fine, no issues with that. Except said child used to toddle over, she'd get her boob out, he'd have a couple of sucks, walk off and she'd just leave it out. Nipple stuck out from feeding, milk on it, right there in your face. She'd carry on talking to you as if there was nothing peculiar about having your whole boob hanging out of your top. No attempt to put it away. I'm all for breastfeeding in public but I thought that was a bit much.

[Neolara]

I bf for over 4 years and fed them in shops, restaurants, parks etc. OP - I agree with you. I don't really think feeding babies as and when they need and taking account of other people's sensitivities as being incompatible.

[PoorYorick]

Oh who gives a shit. Just look away. Your issues aren't anyone else's problem.

[FlakeBook]

It's because breastfeeding needs to be normalised. And covering / hiding just contributes to the notion that it should be hidden.

If it makes people uncomfortable, the only way that will change is to normalise breastfeeding.

[BonkToTheFinish]

“If people are that uncomfortable then they don’t have to look”

Well that’s not the point. You don’t have to be staring open mouthed to see a boob completely on show. sometimes it doesn’t escape eye level.

Also, most strangers/even family and friends wouldn’t want to say anything.

That doesn’t mean it’s okay to just disregard people’s feelings.

[Fluffyears]

Also DISCREET ffs!

[AllTheWittyNamesAreGone]

You must be looking at these women for a while and staring.

You just sound dirty and pervy

[NoCryLilSoftSoft]

Rubbish - I have very clearly said most people are discrete. A bit of flesh to be seen is no problem.

That’s not what I’ve said at all. I’ve specifically described someone who just takes the whole thing out without a single bit of discretion. The whole thing on show.

So a bit of flesh is no problem but more flesh is a problem? How much flesh is appropriate? Have you got a percentage you could share with us?

[ElizabethShaw]

Just depends what you're wearing doesn't it? Sometimes you can pull a top up.
If I'm wearing something with buttons or a wrap front then boob comes out.

The baby is surely covering the nipple which is the "offensive" bit?
I guess maybe you could see a bit of areola if you sit close enough

You see more boob flesh at a swimming pool.

[CosmicPineapple]

Sat opposite a bloke in a cafe yesterday.
He chomped his way through his sandwich mouth wide open half chewed food and saliva on show. Nearly made me vomit.

Breast out as baby is feeding. Not an issue at al, I wouldl much rather see that than what I was subjected to yesterday.

I think you should pay attention to your own business OP and stop staring at other womens breasts.

[BonkToTheFinish]

I bf for over 4 years and fed them in shops, restaurants, parks etc. OP - I agree with you. I don't really think feeding babies as and when they need and taking account of other people's sensitivities as being incompatible

Exactly this. Again, covering yourself or baby up isn’t hard. You can be discreet by having a bloody vest top and bra on. No covering needed to be discreet about the whole thing

There isn’t any need to have the whole thing out at all

[Lethaldrizzle]

Unless the breast in question is filling up the entire restaurant then you can look away. You are being massively unreasonable

[PricklyBall]

Thing is, one person's "getting her whole boob out" is another person's "oh dammit, 7 month old is at the stage where the rest of the world is soooo distracting, so they keep moving their head around thus giving everyone a quick flash."

I'm of the "if it bothers you, look the other way" school of thought.

[QueenAmongstMen]

You'd hate me OP,

I was at a wedding last weekend and sat openly breast feeding at the Church. We then went to the venue and as everyone was being seated for the Wedding Breakfast I had to walk in with the baby attached to me and meander around everyone with my "boob out" whilst looking for my table. I then had to breast feed during dessert too on a table of 8 people. Oh the scandal.

[Fluffyears]

why are you so interested in another woman’s tits? Just ignore if it bothers you.

[Mumoftwoyoungkids]

The reason people breast feed like that is for so so long one of the most natural things in the world has been hidden away and made out to be something a bit secret and dirty. In a world where breasts are used to sell everything from newspapers to cars.

And so it has been politisised.

When each and every woman can be 100% confident that they can breastfeed anywhere that a child can be bottle fed without fear of comments then people won’t bother doing stuff like that.

But right now - many women are still very nervous to breastfeed in public.

[HaHaHmm]

AAARGHHHH

YOU MEAN 'DISCREET'

[SauvignonBlanche]

That doesn’t mean it’s okay to just disregard people’s feelings.

You're making me feel ill with your ridiculous prudish attitude, sexualising breast feeding and constant misuse of the word discrete for discreet so stop disregarding my feelings!

YABU

[Teddy7878]

I agree with you OP. It's great that women breastfeed in public places and I'm all for it. But having the whole boob out is unnecessary as you only need to pull the top down a bit and get the nipple out

[TheFirstMrsDV]

IME (which is a lot, I have five DCS) if someone is going to feel uncomfortable and/or object to breastfeeding they will regardless of the amount of tit on show.

Its not the sight of a breast that offends its the very idea of bfing in public.

I can't think of a single time I have seen a woman swinging her breasts about whilst feeding a child yet but they way people go on about it you would think there was an epidemic of breast swinger on a rampage.

[RoryItsSnowing]

If you're offended, that's your problem.

You're not eating with your head under a big sheet so why should a baby?

Would you insist a man cover his chest in public? It's a boob being used for the very thing it was intended for, if you don't like it don't look.

[60sname]

OP YANBU. And fwiw I bfed (mostly without a cover) till DS was 1.

Yes breasts and bf are part of life. Do we normally see whole boobs out in public (beaches excepted)? No. So it is an unusual sight for most people. I do think people do it to make a statement.

[prettyprettyprettyprettyghoul]

Well for me to breastfeed I had to use two hands. Massive, overfull breasts that did not point in the right direction. I’m quite sure I flashed many people but it was not on purpose and honestly, I didn’t care either way. Feed the kid!

Has nobody considered the reason some women feel they need to ‘show off’ the fact that they are breastfeeding says more about our society not accepting breastfeeding as normal (as in, look at me REBELLING by breastfeeding) rather than them actually wanting to be exhibitionists!

Until we ask men to stop taking their tops off on the street every time the temp gauge goes over 20 degrees I cannot or will not get myself worked up over this.

[BonkToTheFinish]

Fluffy clearly I’m not interested in other women’s tits

I just don’t see a need to have the whole thing on show.

Some people don’t feel comfortable seeing that and don’t want to make you feel uncomfortable by acting on this.

I appreciate that and act according.

But the funny thing is, no extra effort is needed not to have my whole tit out