To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

[BonkToTheFinish]

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging

Peng

I'm with you OP, I bf both of my kids for 14 months. I had no issues with feeding wherever I needed to and happily fed in restaurants etc. I also never felt the need or needed to get my whole breast out to do so and I never covered baby either.
Unfortunately I do think some women do feel the need to exhibit more to make a point or get a reaction. Personally I don't understand it and I think it harms the row about making breastfeeding in public accepted more. I've seen countless women bf and you can't really tell what they are doing so it is easy to do it without taking out your whole breast.
I'm sure someone will find fault with my post though.... But we can't all be of the same opinion......😉

You can't help being gay...but you can certainly help whether you are discreet about it or not!

Lets not pick holes in how people express their love for each other in public....lets not pick holes in how women breast feed. Lets just wind our necks in and leave people to it.

Dear MNHQ, I need an applause smiley for Morphene's comment please!

hmmm or maybe women just feed their babies and it hasn't occurred to them that the sight of a boob is going to be blowing peoples minds.

Maybe they live in parts of the country where this doesn't blow peoples mind and is normalized...and are just visiting somewhere else in the country for a bit.

I have breasts and rather large ones at that. Do I want to see breasts when having a coffee. No I don't.

Stop sexualising breastfeeding and you won’t have a problem.

As my breasts currently ‘waft’ around my waist discretion went by the by. I am sure many a person copped an eyeful as my little horrors loved tugging off any attempt at concealment. Every comment I got was positive. YABU.

creature I should probably have quit while I was ahead....

How interesting that you didn't start a thread about women going topless on the beach or women with their breasts out in lads mags/newspapers? Or do you just object to a breast if it's visible for a practical rather than aesthetic reason?

Bonk do you still require women to cover up if they're breastfeeding while wearing a bikini?

Not my circus, not my monkeys. Or boobs.

There is something disturbing about your continued use of “the whole thing”. And your talk of “letting loose” you have issues OP and I think you need to speak to a counsellor rather than subjecting others to them. Youre really not being very considerate at all.

Maybe come up with rules, op. Others have requested the benefit of your wisdom with regard to the percentage of acceptable flesh, which you have thus far avoided giving.
Can you please supply a full breakdown of acceptable and unacceptable breastfeeding techniques, clothing etc, appropriate to different sized breasts, ages of children, and multiples? Just to be perfectly clear to all breastfeeding mothers what the appropriate guidelines are, indeed, and so that they may not inadvertently offend?
Including timings, please. I would specifically like to know whether there is a particular length of time that is appropriate for dealing with a child (please give age of child) who looks round mid feed, for mother to organise picking up baby, latch etc.
I feel this definitely a much misunderstood practice. Perhaps you can give us all the benefit of your wisdom on how to do this breastfeeding thing properly.
Having bf three kids (although sadly dc3 had to be tube fed so that fucked my ostentatiousness somewhat) I am disappointed to learn that over so many years I seem to have missed the official instructions that would have enabled me to achieve the dream of sustaining not only my children but the equilibrium of the general public. Do this for the world, op. It's essential that all these hapless women trying to feed kids do it the Right Way.

I'm with you OP, I bf both of my kids for 14 months. I had no issues with feeding wherever I needed to and happily fed in restaurants etc. I also never felt the need or needed to get my whole breast out to do so and I never covered baby either.
Unfortunately I do think some women do feel the need to exhibit more to make a point or get a reaction. Personally I don't understand it and I think it harms the row about making breastfeeding in public accepted more. I've seen countless women bf and you can't really tell what they are doing so it is easy to do it without taking out your whole breast.
I'm sure someone will find fault with my post though.... But we can't all be of the same opinion......😉

Thank you - To be fair I’ve hardly seen anyone do the whole boob on show thing, but it definitely is a thing. Many do, in fact, just not give a toss for anyone else and do the whole boob out thing, for an extra unnecessary amount of time too.

Many people don’t want to be in a place of eating and have to see a whole breasts when said person could have easily just made it more discreet to begin with.

Maybe come up with rules, op. Others have requested the benefit of your wisdom with regard to the percentage of acceptable flesh, which you have thus far avoided giving

No I haven’t - I made it very clear what I meant.

I have repeated more than a dozen times now, the whole boob out.

People aren’t offended by seeing boobs so much as offended by seeing boobs feeding babies. I’ve seen more boob in a nightclub than I ever have feeding a baby

More often than not, so true

I'm convinced that what actually happens with these threads is this: two people can look at exactly the same incident and see it in completely different ways. One person sees a woman feeding her baby with maybe a very quick glimpse of nipple because babies aren't always cooperative. They think to themselves "good on her!" and possibly "oh, I remember that age, so hard to get them to concentrate on feeding when the world around them is so interesting." The other person sees a woman "getting her whole boob out, oh the shock, the horror".

I'm inclined to think the problem lies with the interpretation the second person is putting on the situation, not the situation itself.

Being an untypical mumsnetter with small boobs no-one could tell when I was feeding DD because she covered my boobs completely so it was never an issue.

I would have though a baby feeding would cover a lot up anyway so there wouldn't be much to see

OP you are just not a very nice person are you. I feel sad for you that something this trivial bothers you so much.
Have you tried taking up a hobby? Maybe then you will be less of a boob watcher/pervert.

How interesting that you didn't start a thread about women going topless on the beach or women with their breasts out in lads mags/newspapers? Or do you just object to a breast if it's visible for a practical rather than aesthetic reason?

Funnily enough, I’ve never seen a topless woman or lad mag whilst eating out in restraunts

Again, some places do require more discretion.

A beach is a completely different set up to a table in a place of eating, etc etc

Surely that’s understandable?

How often have you actually seen a woman get a whole boob out and then leave it there for some time while picking up the baby before latching the baby on.

I don't think I have ever seen this happen

There you go with this obsession with the whole boob. OP you do realise that the nipple is kind of essential to feed the baby. You can’t just pull up 10% at the top of the breast and have the baby suck your skin. You need to expose the nipple. It’s where the food is and unfortunately for you it isn’t located on the collarbone.