How to get out of something that I didnt agree to?

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I am very close friends with a group of 5 ladies, known each other since high school.
We all have children ranging from the ages of 1-6.

Friend 1s child started reception this year and has joined the PTA aswell. Friend 2 & 3 already have children at this school. Friend 1 is the only one on the PTA.

Friend 2 has just text me, saying she didnt know I was offering a prize at the christmas fair.

Me: What?
F2: One of the raffle prizes is a colour & cut at KungFus Salon.
Me : Must be an error and mean another salon.

Cue a whatsapp message of friend 3, with a screenshot of the flyer and the message "kept this quiet. Its lovely of you though"

In the flyer it mentions how the school will be grateful for donations etc etc, raffle tickets go on sale after the school holidays for X price. It then goes on to give a "sneak peek" for some prizes up for grabs and sure enough their is my bloody salon 3rd on the list offering a colour and cut.

Text F1 did she sign me up. Yes she did, that was her contribution (?!)
I asked F1 will she be paying for the voucher. She has responded No, she wont be because its for a good cause and the rest of the community has donated bits and bobs.

Now Im stuck.
I didnt agree to any of this and now leaflets have been given out advertising my salon donating one of the prizes.
All the money goes to the school so it is a good cause, but i just see it as my child doesn't attend that school or any school for that matter. This "donation" will leave me anywhere from £30-£45 out of pocket.

Would i look horrendous ringing the school up and explaining what has happened or shall I suck it up and just do it.

I am PTA Chair at my LO's school, since March this year and still very much learning the ropes but when read this thought WTAF!! I would never ever do that! Tell her she's out of order and ask her to pay your or cancel! So sorry, this is why PTAs get a bad Rep. I am doing my best to make ours an awesome fund raising vehicle that people want to contribute to....

Surely rule number one @lottie would be to read all documents?
The thread has moved on, and even has a whole new thread with an epic update. Was posted hours ago.

Very awkward situation having to do confrontation with a ‘friend’ but no true friend would volunteer another friend’s services making themout of pocket, without discussing it first. She should have approached you and asked if there was any possibility of you offering this or perhaps giving a prize of a discount towards your salon treatments. Personally I think you should explain the situation to the school and make your F1 contribute to the cost of the prize. She won’t be making that mistake again!

Personally I think you should explain the situation to the school and make your F1 contribute to the cost of the prize. She won’t be making that mistake again!
(978 Posts in dont you think the op might have thought of that by now?)

CF refused to pay anything despite F2 &F3 offering to chip in. How the hell was op supposed to make her pay?
PTA were told by op 9 1/2 hours ago on this thread!

BTW

This thread is finished!

There is a new one (680+ posts already)

You were very kind to suggest that she was just a bit ditzy and "forgot" to tell you.
However, if I was the chair of that PTA, I would now remember this moment of "ditziness" and forever after make absolutely sure that whatever F1 said, or offered, had hard back up before believing it.

I work in a school and often prizes go unredeemed. If the winner does contact you could you tell them it’s not valid until the new year, just so you don’t miss out on a paying customer. You could actually print a voucher yourself stating this.

Cancel the cheque

Wow your F1 is a cheeky one. Think she needs to be taught to be less entitled. She pays for voucher or you pull out. You can't do that to people it's soo rude!

at the people posting who haven't Rtft.

Has anyone suggested cancelling the cheque yet?

RTFT folks. It's done and dusted.

What you should do is, rftf!

Just text friend and say that you didn't agree to it and your child doesn't even go to that school! Cf! Ask her for the money!

Genius!

We didnt need 2 threads and nearly 1700 posts at all.

RTT this one is FINISHED!

This is quite fun. I suspect all these people are in Maui!

As she thinks it is just a small contribution she should jolly well pay it herself. If she's unwilling to pay for it just say 'neither am I, will you let the school know or shall I?'. That way she's said no herself first and can hardly think you're out of order when she's not willing to pay herself - and your kids don't even go there!!! She is absolutely outrageous. I would ditch that friendship!

Wow such good advice kastiekastie, why did no one in nearly 1,000 messages suggest the same?! Genius!