How to get out of something that I didnt agree to?

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I am very close friends with a group of 5 ladies, known each other since high school.
We all have children ranging from the ages of 1-6.

Friend 1s child started reception this year and has joined the PTA aswell. Friend 2 & 3 already have children at this school. Friend 1 is the only one on the PTA.

Friend 2 has just text me, saying she didnt know I was offering a prize at the christmas fair.

Me: What?
F2: One of the raffle prizes is a colour & cut at KungFus Salon.
Me : Must be an error and mean another salon.

Cue a whatsapp message of friend 3, with a screenshot of the flyer and the message "kept this quiet. Its lovely of you though"

In the flyer it mentions how the school will be grateful for donations etc etc, raffle tickets go on sale after the school holidays for X price. It then goes on to give a "sneak peek" for some prizes up for grabs and sure enough their is my bloody salon 3rd on the list offering a colour and cut.

Text F1 did she sign me up. Yes she did, that was her contribution (?!)
I asked F1 will she be paying for the voucher. She has responded No, she wont be because its for a good cause and the rest of the community has donated bits and bobs.

Now Im stuck.
I didnt agree to any of this and now leaflets have been given out advertising my salon donating one of the prizes.
All the money goes to the school so it is a good cause, but i just see it as my child doesn't attend that school or any school for that matter. This "donation" will leave me anywhere from £30-£45 out of pocket.

Would i look horrendous ringing the school up and explaining what has happened or shall I suck it up and just do it.

I think the "ditzy" comment was fabulously pass-agg. The PTA know exactly what happened and will doubtless have a stern word, but OP comes off as gracious.

I suspect telling PTA lady that F1 was ditzy was brilliant strategy on OP's part. F1 can't take offence that OP has slagged her off, but PTA person will now have F1 firmly pegged as unreliable and she'll be left doing all the grunt work like clearing up at the end of PTA events.

Ah, I think the PTA Chair will know that KungFu is protecting her friend. And either way, friend looks an absolute gobshite so it's a win/win.

She knows OP has saved her arse here. If she can't be bothered to be both apologetic and grateful, she's no loss of a friend either way.

She knows OP has saved her arse here.
No way - CF will be furious that op didn't comply like a good girl!

If she can't be bothered to be both apologetic and grateful, she's no loss of a friend either way.

My money is on bitter and angry, but I agree that she doesn't sound like a great loss....

Ah, I think the PTA Chair will know that KungFu is protecting her friend. And either way, friend looks an absolute gobshite so it's a win/win.

Definitely - the OP explained herself in the FB message and then had a chat with the PTA Chair about what actually happened and whilst I'm sure they both agreed to agree with the "polite fiction" that CF1 was "mistaken" or is just "ditzy" and didn't intend the mis-information, both the OP and the PTA Chair both now know that CF1 is a manipulative liar that is not to be trusted.

Therefore the OP can now go away from the conversation and tell the CF1 that she has dug her out of the shit this time but she is never to do that ever again or else she's on her own to sort it out. The PTA Chair also knows that one of her members is not to be trusted when it comes to claims and promises until the item is physically in their hands and they should check that any businesses involved are actually aware of their "donations" being offered if they are coming from CF1!

F1 has text can she please come round and speak to me at the salon or at home when I finish. Hopefully she will realise she was a twat and apologise.

Good luck with the chat Op. You may need another thread!

You're more likely to get an apology at the salon, IMO; although there is a risk of bad publicity if she kicks off instead. Hmm.

Don't see her at the salon - she probably wants a mates rates CC.

I doubt it - she seems to have solid brass balls!

Anything less than an apology is a slap in the face. Excuses, ifs and buts are coming your way I think, but good luck.

I think I'd probably text her back "I've dealt with it so let's draw the curtains on this episode and discuss it no more. No need to apologize, just remember next time to ask first".

I would definitely have her come to the salon but I'd ask her to come over right at/just after closing time, so that if she does kick off there are no customers to see/hear her, and it's a slightly more "neutral" location than your own home

God, I hope so OP, and she doesn't come round and sound off. You have already saved her arse.

Agree: meet her somewhere public, not at your home. She's less likely to go off on one then.

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I agree with Across

We need a new thread for the meeting...

I would meet her. She deserves the chance to apologise; we all make dicks of ourselves now and again. If she kicks off you ask her to leave and don't see her again.

She won't apologise, she will give you a dressing down for not complying. She will make out that you humiated her and you owe her an apology. That's what cheeky feckers are about

Ditzy? A liar more like to make herself look good to the pta.

Unless you finally have the overdue apology I hope you ditch her.

Good luck. I hope she is suitably apologetic and gracious.