WIBU me or DH?

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I won some money on a raffle, not a lot about £500.

I think we should use it to clear off two small debts we have; one's a credit card which has £200 left to pay on it and the other is an overdraft of about £180. I want to put the remaining towards DD (who's 2) Christmas presents, and get her something I know she really wants - it won't cost the whole £120 left but a good chunk of it. The rest will cover our Christmas Day food costs.

My DHs PS4 broke about 6 months ago - it's unrepairable so we sold it for spares and repairs. He's been going to my DMs to use my DBros or going to his friends to play theirs. He's been going a couple of times a week (I don't actually mind as I go swimming 3 times a week after work so this is his "leisure time"). He was very excited when I won the money, "I can finally replace the PS4" he says quite happily.

Personally, I know it's a pain but my DBro is out at work 4 nights a week and is happy for my DH to use his PS4 in that time, so I prefer the system we have, and I think the debts are a higher priority than his PS4. If he goes to his friends, they spend time together have a laugh and he says he enjoys going so again I don't mind.

I'm happy to be told IABU, but should we be boring and sensible or do I let my DH blow it all on an expensive console that neither me nor DD will benefit from?

We don't go out much as a family as he doesn't like being away from his games for too long.

That’s really pathetic.

I don’t mind gaming, I like my PS4. I don’t not go out because I don’t want to leave my games; and I don’t need to use someone else’s if I can’t get to mine for a bit.

This is a good time for him to kick his addiction.

OP there is nothing wrong with you going swimming after work. You've paid for a whole day so you pick her up when you like.

So - £180 overdraft, plus £380 credit card debts. Is that it - total of £560 debt.

And you've won £500.

And DD needs a Christmas present - lively toy kitchen here for less than £60
http://www.studio.co.uk/shop/en/studio/pers-modern-wooden-kitchen?source=TK1S&cssoc=047&cmmmc=StudiooPDisplaylayGooglePLA---Toys-Games%7CToys%7CPersonalised%20Modern%20Wooden%20Kitchen%7C88549763&gclid=Cj0KCQjwsZHPBRClARIsAC-VMPBiO4HcSoT-i1XMcjMKo1kaiO2QpNS4WcIWm0mcHgpAmazzJ1jQaAlbuEALwwwc

Pay off the debts, including as much of the overdraft as possible. But a kitchen (get a bargain).

Make a budget. You sound as if you're struggling to prioritise things a little.

Tell your DP to save up.

So he neglects his family, racks up debt, goes to your mums to play your brother's PlayStation, and you need to put money aside for Christmas dinner. This sounds miserable. Does he have any redeeming features? He sounds like an immature moron. Sorry.

Just want to say you sound like a great mum OP and you are adulting like a boss!
As for your DH, he definitely needs to sell his old consoles if he's not using them.
Have you decided what to do with your winnings yet?

*who he plays online with have PS4s so he can't play with them.

We don't go out much as a family as he doesn't like being away from his games for too long*

Ffs he's a grown man with proper grown up responsibilities. He doesn't like not being able to play with his friends and won't do things as a family because it drags him away?? He sounds a cracker.

So your last partner gave you a bad credit record so you cant get a cc in your own name. So your current one won't / can't explain where about 2k of bill money has gone from a joint account that only you two have access to. So it doesn't take a genius to work out he's spent it on himself on something unknown. So you are now taking half responsibility for that cc debt too even though you contributed half to the bill money in the first place ? Really ?

The more I read the more I think you are me 20 years ago. Trust me when I say you need to look at this relationship very carefully and decide if you can continue. Not anyone's decision but your own but I would be considering my options right now.