Daddy-daughter Date

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Ok, obviously I know this is an American concept/video but I was scrolling through Facebook this morning and one of my UK friends said he couldn't wait to do that with his baby daughter.

Isn't it a bit.....odd. I'm struggling to put my finger on exactly why but while it's obviously lovely to spend time with your kids one on one....why on earth would you put it in a 'date' catogory?! A small child doesn't need to know how to date

AIBU to think this is totally weird? A lot of the comments are things like 'I'm going to make sure my husband does this with our little girl so she knows how a lady should be treated!'

Can't you just advise her when the time comes rather than dress up having your tea together as a bloody date? It is weird isn't it or am I being really awful and everyone thinks it's a lovely concept

The video makes it seem creepy but actually I don't see the harm in the concept.

We do normal stuff like park etc. But if I have been busy with work and not had much time to spend with dd then we will have an extra special day out, maybe to a zoo or farm park or somewhere and it is will occasionally be referred to as mummy and wheres Jr date same as if she is doing something special as a treat with her dad we refer to it as daddy and whres Jr date. It's by no means a sexualisation of her, it is merely a way of differentiating between the normal day to day stuff and something a bit more special.

The issue is people twisting it and applying sexual connotations to it.

It's grim.

Never see a daddy-son date, or mummy-son/daughter date do we? it feeds into the whole 'I came to the door witb a gun when my daughter went on her first date' type shite. Absolutely hate it.

Would you still call it a date if you were taking your son out to spend some time together @wheresthel1ght ?

'Date' to me implies romance. 'Courting', for want of a better word.

I also think play date and date night (when you're already married) are weird.

A 'date' with your opposite-sex child where you dress up and do things you might normally do on an adult-romance type of date? Exponentially fucking weirder.

I agree, seems creepy to me

Yes I would.

The definition of the word "date" is a time and day an event will happen. It is an accurate description of an activity I have planned with a person. Society places the inference of romance on it.

Yeah, but would you get dressed up and buy him a corsage, and book a table at a candelit restaurant, and say 'I'm going on a date with my son'??

No but that isn't what I be in cm discussed. It is about the terminology of daddy daughter date.

However I wouldn't do that with my other half either as it's not our thing.

This thread isn't about the terminology of the word date though. It's about the whole concept. Which is a thing, even if this clip is an ad.

wheresthel1ght, yes date can mean just a time and place to meet, but in the video they are acting out a romantic date. Dads and their daughters shouldn't have romantic dates, a cute picnic with teddy bears is much more appropriate.

Youcanstayundermyumbrella personally I am not worried by the wording. I am not getting tied up in language as the intent is clearly not sinister in that way. What I am concerned with is the message it brings in regards to how women should be treated and how men should treat women.

Why is there no on the MN 'Smileys' list?

PS KoalaD I love 'exponentially fucking weirder'. I may have to adopt this.

Had American friends who did this. 7 year old daughter put on scent and party dress to go in a date with daddy. Yuck x 100, 000

What worries me is a lot of American Yuck seems to find its way over the sea and in bed its self in peveryday culture.

Stomach-churning.
I hope the poor young lass in the video grows up to be a lesbian just to spite her creepy dad

THIS VIDEO IS HORRIBLENESS!!
I didn't even know horribleness was a word, even autocorrect hates it!
Why oh why does it have the creepy beginning bit where Dad is acting like HE'S GOING ON A REAL DATE, "it's been a while", "I'm really nervous", euuuuch.

Also, I think what makes me sad is that this is sooo clearly done with adults in mind. That little girl doesn't care what she or her dad are wearing, she's got no concept of a date or what that even means, so why are they pushing it as something they're doing for her benefit?!

1DAD2KIDS I'm not sure you read my post right, or my others on this thread.

in the US 'date' doesn't just mean a romantic evening between adults.... e.g. "play-date".

I haven't watched the video though.

Agree with CecilyP.

It's how the whole thing has been approached that makes my toes curl.

My boys have Dad & son dates... I have Mum & son dates. But the interpretation we have is that it's a date on the calendar where each child gets undivided attention from one parent. My eldest likes to put on his favourite jeans and eat out somewhere "that already has glasses on the table", my youngest likes to go to the go karts (because he can beat me).

It's not set up like a romantic date, just a space in time where there's no competing with anyone for another family member.

The video in the OP makes my cringe.