Daddy-daughter Date

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Ok, obviously I know this is an American concept/video but I was scrolling through Facebook this morning and one of my UK friends said he couldn't wait to do that with his baby daughter.

Isn't it a bit.....odd. I'm struggling to put my finger on exactly why but while it's obviously lovely to spend time with your kids one on one....why on earth would you put it in a 'date' catogory?! A small child doesn't need to know how to date

AIBU to think this is totally weird? A lot of the comments are things like 'I'm going to make sure my husband does this with our little girl so she knows how a lady should be treated!'

Can't you just advise her when the time comes rather than dress up having your tea together as a bloody date? It is weird isn't it or am I being really awful and everyone thinks it's a lovely concept

This is fucking weird.

But it can work both ways I have a friend who constantly posts about #motherandsondates on FB.

Delta it is only sexualising as well. A date is meant to be a romantic/sexual interaction or encounter with somebody, with the view to developing a sexual and emotional relationship with that person. Not a dad or mum taking their child out, no no no, that is not a date. I agree Delta going out to the funfair, eating ice cream from a stand, feeding the ducks, going on a bike ride, having tea out somewhere: this is called spending time with your child, not going on a date, that is a totally different thing altogether!

Yes teach your child to treat others (male/female) with respect, and it does not include taking them out on a date and making your young son pay for your meal out of his pocket money!

Of course,describing it as a 'date' is regrettable terminology.
Equally regrettable is some posters assumptions that fathers are incapable of supervising baths, teeth brushing, proper nutrition, and bedtime.

Yeah, it's nonsense. But it's more sinister than than that - it comes from a patriarchal society that says men don't do day to day childcare so a 'daddy daughter date' is like some sort of big thing where the man like, actually spends time with the kid. Also real men don't feed their kids (see that terrible Organix ad!!)

Let's all boycott this daddy date term. Also boycot dads saying 'I'm babysitting (my kid) tonight' - no you're not mate, you're their bloody dad.

Agree with everyone else -- it's ewwwwwww!

My x BIL used to have a thing where he wolf whistled his daughters (they were only 3 and 5) -- I found it disturbing. He probably didn't realize how creepy he was as I doubt he gave a thought to older men wolf whistling at her when she is older....

Really well said Youcanstayundermyumbrella, I have 2 adult daughters, ages 30 and 33 and their dad took them camping, built outdoor showers, cooked food over an open fire and taught them self defense in case of attack. We also encouraged them to discuss and reason at the dinner table and now have the most amazing independent, funny, capable adults who cope with anything and have the most acute skills and initiative. Both daughters have Degrees and were both able to cope and grow being away from home. We also both encouraged muddy outdoor games, built houses out of boxes and gave them driving lessons (nightmare but worth it!), so this sick date thing makes me chunder! I am a foster parent and see very strange ideas about Father/Daughter 'bonds', this 'date' idea must not come to the UK

1DAD2KIDS Also in your case, what happens if your son wants to go out for a fancy meal as well? Would these weirdos say no because he's not gay?! Not saying you'd do this, you sound absolutely ok.

I hate the Prince/ Princess shite as well btw.

bleugh! is v odd. And I too hate the couple date night thing - awful! Yes spend time together just doing things you enjoy so that each member of a family gets some less diluted time but...actually cannot express - vom!

Someone I know wants to organise a “daddy daughter dance” as a PTA fundraiser. A bit I think

I wonder if he takes his gun, you know, to protect her.

you can tell those dads don't spend anytime with the children. this make me shiver.

I wonder if he takes his gun, you know, to protect her.

CheshireChat it's just madness. I wouldn t take my daughter on a 'date' nor my son. I just simply on the occations I can (not often I can split them being on my own) it's nice to spend some time with then one on one where they have my sole undivided attention. If my son wanted to go for a fancy dinner I would be chuffed, I love eating out. And who better to spend a meal with? I go out for dinner with a good male mate now and then (although one restaurant tottaly got the wrong end of the stick once, put me and my mate in the most romantic spot and come put a wee little candle inbthe table, nobody else in the restaurant had a candle).

My point is I don't like this notion of bringing up our girls to be little princess' and or boys the be benelovelent princes. I think it's a culture that drags men and women apart and sets unreasonable expectations of how women are ment to behave and men are supposed to provide. How can become closer if we still teach our girls and boys to princess and princes? That doesn't seem a receipy for mutraul respect and contribution to society. So my concern with this date thing is what lessons does it teach the little girl on her role and life and what role does it teach her about the role of boys.

It is weird to use that phrase. What's wrong with dad/kid time? Or just family time?

I don't understand why it has to be called anything - as a child I did stuff with my Dad and stuff with my Mum and sometimes both together.

Eewww really not right. Do mums and boys have date nights too, bloody sexist and patronising and purely wrong

My dd and dh go trap shooting most Saturdays....last time she was best in line....while wearing pink trimmed vest...

How about dads just doing parenting? Which includes doing some fun stuff like going to the cinema or the park and some less fun stuff like taking your kids to the dentist! The word 'date' feels inappropriate - the ultimate destination for a 'daddy-daughter date' type relationship is probably Donald Trump, talking about how 'hot' his daughter is, and how he would go out with her if she wasn't his daughter.

What is trap shooting?

Small groups of shooters (5) line up and take turns shooting clay discs (with special long guns) that are thrown in the air by a machine. It's shooting that does not harm any living thing but requires great skill as its a fast, random moving disc that is the size of a horse's hoof. Mostly at clubs and tournaments.

She is amazingly feminine and only wore pink until she was 11. Now in engineering as is her father. (Wearing pink did not prevent her from STEM career)

But my point was more that it was the antithesis of a "tea date"....and I believe that a husband who treats his wife respectfully is one of the best ways to teach children to respect and expect respect.

Sara107,
"...the ultimate destination for a 'daddy-daughter date' type relationship is probably Donald Drumpf, talking about how 'hot' his daughter is, and how he would go out with her if she wasn't his daughter."

From The Howard Stern Show, 2004, another delightful insight into the weirdo's mindset:

Drumpf: “My daughter is beautiful, Ivanka."

Stern: “By the way, your daughter…”

Drumpf: “ - she’s beautiful"

Stern: “Can I say this? A piece of ass.”

Drumpf: “Yeah.”

His basic lack of respect for women is a given, sadly, but you'd think even he would get incensed and embarrassed by his own daughter being described in that way, not condone it. Jeez.

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