Nursery debate

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For the past few days, there have been a number of threads about nurseries and the pros and cons. Personally, I am not keen on nurseries for under 3's and after 3 for 15 hours. What does everyone else think?

Do you work?

I work in a nursery. We have some kids who are with us more than 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, 51 weeks of the year apart from Christmas. Some parents work and no nursery isn't an option

Well if my DD (18 months) didn't go to nursery, then I couldn't work. I doubt my job would still be open for me if I took 3 years off.

Ditzy, yes I do.

Why aren't you keen? My two year old thrived at nursery and loved it.. always emerging with arts and crafts, paintings, chatter about things he'd done.
Do you "not agree" due to some belief that children can only be cared for by their mothers?
There are plenty of rubbish mothers who stick their kids in front of the telly all day or don't interact with them.
Yet another thread that will turn into bashing working women....

My experience is this. My own son has gone from the age of 12 months and has done fantastically well. He has a great relationship with the carers and I am so, so glad I chose as a nursery instead of a child minder because he's a happy, sociable and empathetic little boy. He's learned so much. My friends daughter started at 2 but she felt she 'didnt settle' so withdrew her. They play often together; she can be spiteful, selfish and is quite over bearing, usually telling my son what she can and can't do. Now it may or may not be down to the fact that she doesn't socialise with other kids (her grandma cares for Her which means she watches tv all day- mums words not mine) but I feel it does make a difference. And if you work, unless you can find a trusted childminder, there's a good chance you are going to need a nursery possibly before the age of 3 and more than 15 hours! I find it offensive that people think it's 'bad' to use a nursery, my friend insinuates it quite often! It's not bad at all, it depends on the nursery of course but my experience is entirely positive!

Surely it actually depends on the nursery.. and the child.

My dd has been at preschool for the last year 3 mornings a week and she loves it, even though we don't need to put her in my dh and I chose to pay for her 3 mornings as it took some of the pressure of ils who look after dd whilst we are at work.

She's due to start 5 mornings shortly and when we told her she shouted yippee I can play with my friends even more!

I think if you get the right nursery that has a wide range of enriching activities then children will thrive we've been fortunate that we have an outstanding nursery right on our doorstep that is very child focused

I work had one child attend a CM until starting school, second one to nursery. Both have their pros, however, the nursery environment suits my youngest way more that being with the CM did and likewise it would not have suited my eldest.

I think you should mind your own business and not judge - some people don't have the luxury of other options.

I don't understand what it is you're "debating"?

What is the point in this thread if not to cause an argument op?

My child blossomed at nursery.

Can’t say I give a rat’s arse what anyone else is “keen on”, personally.

You do what’s right for your child, and i’ll do what’s right for mine.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/education/2004/jul/08/schools.uk

You know that article is nearly 15 years old right? If you are going to try and goad people you may at least want to use current resources.

Completely disagree with you. DD1 was in nursery from 6 months for 3 days/33 hours a week, due to me and DH both working. She absolutely loved it, it helped her development no end, and I'm sure she was much more entertained by the nursery staff than she ever would have been by me! I always think, they're the professionals, what do I know about the development of children? I have a lot of respect for SAHMs who do look after their kids full time and fill their time with challenging activities, but that's just not me.

I think we shouldn't comment on it. Every mother does what she feels is the best for her child and the differences between kids in nursery and kids at home are negligible a few years later. In the majority of cases neither scenario will cause any harm. Just do what you think is best for your child and your family and stop judging others.

It's an emotive topic, which is why I started a new thread. Studies and experts show it is not beneficial yet is completely normalised and encouraged even. Its not an argument but a debate. Please don't participate if you don't want.

51 hours a week as described above does make me have a pang for the child. I don't judge the parents though, rather a system that offers little support for working families.

That article is 13 years old 🙄

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/uk/2004/nov/26/children.schools Same newspaper, same year.

I wouldn't want a childminder, so nursery for me.

My DD has been in Nursery for 3 days a week since she was 9 months old.

Her speech has come on leaps and bounds. She is social and able to share and play with others.

In my opinion, nursery offers 10x more stimulation, resources and knowledge of early years education than I ever could. And I can work FT. Win win.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1284413/Forget-guilt-taking-toddlers-nursery--huge-study-finds-does-harm.html

The article above recommending nursery is by the professor of educational psychology at Oxford. Might I inquire as to your qualifications?