Am in the wrong here?

[Louiseop]

Hello
Me and my partner have just moved into a new property.
I work full time and he is currently in between jobs.
I picked a carpet out and he liked it,so I gave him the money (over £1000) for him to go to the shop and pay for them.
Come home Tuesday all excited and ask when they being fitted ..."don't know"
Was his response.
Ok why don't you know?
The man needs to come down Thursday (today ) to double check the measurements.
This morning arrives...just left for work and I say
"At least we will know today when the carpets will be down"
His response ."no we won't"
So I ask why?
"He is just coming to double check measurements then I guess he will have to order carpet,he will probably ring me when he can"
So I got annoyed and said
"Well ask how long roughly before they are fitted)
He said .."I'm not asking that he will ring when he can"
So then I get annoyed and say
"What's the problem in asking for a rough estimate after we have just gave him over a grand"
So he raises his voice now and starts being patronising ...
"Ok then you tell me how carpet shops work,has Joe blogs got all these carpets lying around waiting for people to order,come on you tell me how it works"
I told him to fuck off and walked out.
All I wanted was a idea of how long it should be?

I assume the OP gave L x W measurements as 65sqm (agree that's a massive carpet!) wouldn't help a fitter know what to bring at all.

"Ok then you tell me how carpet shops work,has Joe blogs got all these carpets lying around waiting for people to order,come on you tell me how it works"

They do actually, What does he think those big rolls of carpet in Allied Carpets are??

I think he's spent the grand and you aren't getting any carpets

Your DP is in the wrong here... 7 months "between" jobs? Won't ask for a simple estimate of when your carpet will be fitted? Sounds like a prize OP! I'd get rid of him personally, you were entirely reasonable for asking him those questions, I have no idea why people are being mean to you in the comments?!

Has he always treated you wi5h such little respect, or only over the past 7 months?
If the former - I’d be reviewing the relationship.
If the latter, then might he be depressed? You’ve moved into your Grandpa’s home. You are in work. You chose the carpet. You paid for the carpet. Etc. Might he be feeling a bit emasculated? That’s not,to,say that I think his behaviour is justified.

I’d rather be single forever than with a bloke who swears at me and goes out of his way to make me feel like an idiot.

Probably get flamed but oh well.

You lost the deposit because he wouldn't move something? You can move stuff yourself.

The washing machine thing, once again you could have done that.

You both sound like you enjoy the drama of making a small problem into a huge thing.

raspberry you gonna post an inspirational photo for OPs partner aswell? She told him to fuck off. So going off your advice the OH needs to get rid.

Bed frames and washing machines can be heavy - it isn't just the technicalities in "de-plumbing" (or whatever it's called)- it's having the muscle to shift it if your stupid article of a partner won't!

But I wouldn't be putting up with being treated like an idiot child by anyone, and certainly not if the property was mine.*

He'd be out on his ear even if he had to sleep in a bus shelter!

• OP said it was her grandfather's house - not sure if they are buying it or she has inherited it or what.

Except removers will move washing machines, they just generally won't unplumb them.

31!!!!

Get rid!! Look out for someone who you like being with and who adores you!

Very strange procedure for spending £1k on a carpet. I'm surprised that they even accepted the money without a measurement or order.

Did he spend the money?

You are 31? To old to meet someone else. That is the most crazy shit I've heard in a long time. I meet my husband when I was 36, had my kids at 38 and 41.

ITS NOT TOO LATE.

Please don't compromise yourself. Your life is not a dress rehearsal, this is your chance

Please leave this excuse of a man child, surely you would be happier on your own than living like this - I find it so sad that you think you are 'too old' at 31. And is having a man in your life really so important, more important than your self worth and mental well being?

Please think carefully about your relationship and what you want for your future.

From everything that you've said it really sounds like you are just not suited / not a good relationship. If you don't have kids leave now

Did you really, Mia? Really?

What's your problem?