Angry stepmum needs to vent

[actuallyspeechless]

Just that really.
I've been moaned at before for letting my DPs ex take up headspace but when you have upset kids in your house it's hard not to.
So now this bio mother who paints herself out to be an 'amazing mummy' and us to be evil bastards has cut off the final way DSC could contact her. Literally nothing now. And the fact that she's done it right after contact was made by DSC is utterly heartbreaking. How can someone be so fucking cruel.
Backstory is long but don't want to be inundated with 'detach' and 'oh you again' but in a nutshell bio mother chose NC but never admitted it to anyone else but us and the DSC

Actuallyspeechless, I missed a lot of that - everything since I last posted, in fact.

I hope you're not too discombobulated by this. I too remember when MN was a safe place to vent and you were given wine! Maybe we can get that back now.

and some

Thank you Jux
I've managed to put the horrible cow to the back of my mind for now. Not much else she can do to cause heartache short of sending paperwork to rescind her PR if that's possible but I doubt she'd do that because then I could possibly adopt and she's told people that over her dead body will that happen 😤

I understand your anger & lack of comprehension as to why the children's mother has nothing to do with them.

Ex has nothing to do with our DTs, he faded out of lives after I left him. They have virtually no memories of him as they were 3 when they last saw him. Initially I talked about him & mailed him info about them but I got no response so stopped. I met & married DP & they chose to call him Dad, he's never distinguished between then & our 2 children together.

I pity ex for not knowing how wonderful they are but part of me is glad that I don't have to deal with him & his wierd family (especially his toxic mother who made it very clear that she disliked me)

OP your anger is destructive for you, you need to try & find a way of letting go of it as it's you it harms. Block their mother on FB if what she posts upsets you, focus on your life & your OH & DSC.

Sometimes anger is an appropriate response - it sounds like this is one of those times - but cannot be expressed. Then somewhere like MN is very (or should be) useful.

OP, you seem strong enough to take the shit thrown at you here. I hope that you still feel you could post again, as I'm sure this won't be the last time she upsets everyone.

I did report this - I said there should be a place where people can vent without getting people turning it into a slam onto the OP (Sorry I'm tired and couldn't phrase it better). It was rejected though as MNHQ feel it wouldn't be supportive.

I read this as a rant and a way to get it out of your system a bit without adding your distress to your family's. I congratulate you for do it that and hope things improve in the future. I hope your family recognises how lucky they are to have you.

Well, I agree with you, there should be somewhere where people can vent safely as we used to, and I think it would be very supportive of family harmony if there were.

I don't really understand HQ's stance; you can hardly be less supportive than this thread has been.

Well all I can suggest contacting MNHQ but I think they're pretty set on saying no.