Angry stepmum needs to vent

[actuallyspeechless]

Just that really.
I've been moaned at before for letting my DPs ex take up headspace but when you have upset kids in your house it's hard not to.
So now this bio mother who paints herself out to be an 'amazing mummy' and us to be evil bastards has cut off the final way DSC could contact her. Literally nothing now. And the fact that she's done it right after contact was made by DSC is utterly heartbreaking. How can someone be so fucking cruel.
Backstory is long but don't want to be inundated with 'detach' and 'oh you again' but in a nutshell bio mother chose NC but never admitted it to anyone else but us and the DSC

I do wonder though if someone who can't even keep her temper in check when typing out answers is really managing to keep it under control in front of the DSC

Seriously?

How dare a SM vent hey.

I'd type the same responses to some of the delibererly goady posts on here.

Agree with Squirrels and Piglet. Many of us have vented here about all sorts of people/partners/husbands/children etc in order to ensure we don't show our ire to the actual object of it, and very successfully thank you!

Thumb, thank you. I remember now; mind you, the Oxford comma was never mentioned in my prep school grammar lessons, but probably didn't exist in the 60s!

I can assure you that I do not show my true feelings about BIO
MOTHER in front of DSC. That would make me as bad as her, but I really can see why people don't come back here for advice. There's always vultures trying to pick holes in your story - if you don't believe their version of events don't bloody comment because if you don't know them personally you'll never actually know anyway 🙄

Wow. No need for that, is there? People have differing views and differing experiences. Why not learn something?

Learn what?
That because I'm a step mum I deserve to be ripped to pieces?
Only on MN

You can’t srop people commenting. That’s not how mumsnet works.

I'm not sure 'differing views' is relevant here, is it? The 'bio mum' thing is a side issue and not relevant to op's situation, but was a useful tool to derail the thread.

Derail the thread indeed!
If bio mother could read this she'd be getting chufties that people were defending her 👏🏻

I haven’t commented on the bio Mum wording at all.

You can’t stop people commenting. That’s not how mumsnet works

But oh how OP wishes she could and it did

I dont blame her really. It baffles me how anyone would focus on ops use of a perfectly acceptable word rather than a parent cutting contact entirely with their child.

Dog with a bone comes to mind

I remember the OP. I would LOVE to hear the mum’s side of the story.

Not sure how anyone could ever defend the fact they have cut all contact with their own young children..

Always two sides the the story and ops continued outbursts towards people and previous posts makes me wonder if there's more to this story.

I dont blame her really. It baffles me how anyone would focus on ops use of a perfectly acceptable word rather than a parent cutting contact entirely with their child

^this

There must be people terribly insecure in their children's lives if they fear the use of the work 'bio' when used in this situation.

Always two sides the the story and ops continued outbursts towards people and previous posts makes me wonder if there's more to this story.

Looking forward to you posting that on relationship or MIL threads.

All this is proving is that to some, 'mother' can do no wrong. Ever.

Not sure how anyone could ever defend the fact they have cut all contact with their own young children

Me too.

In our case their 'mother' tried to including lying in court. The judge didn't buy a word of it.

Some still believe her lies despite indisputable evidence to the contrary.

As I said, to some 'mother' can do no wrong.

I'd love you to hear the mums side of the story too BUT she doesn't tell the truth to ANYONE even her own kids!
She will deny saying something an hour after saying it. You can't reason with stupid can you, no matter how much you try

Honestly OP, it'd be easy to get a diary and vent there. Atleast it cant rip you to pieces and ask about another side to the story.

Sometimes, people are just self serving fuck faces, who love only themselves.

I have absolutely no doubt that if she had the funds she'd take us to court for the contact she is refusing and say all messages are faked. She's told people that I have somehow faked messages from her to DSC in the past

Right well you're obviously thinking of the wrong person because I've had a couple of threads deleted but I ASKED for them to be pulled for privacy reasons.

Not that I don't think you've read my past threads but there are a couple of people on here who are in very similar situations because they have PMd me after reading, so it's quite possible you're assuming they're all me