AIBU to wonder why I have never had a boyfriend?

[silverylamp]

Bit very embarrassing.

I am nothing special but pleasantly average. Successful career, own home, own teeth!

Yet I have never had so much of a whiff of interest.

I think if may be because although my life is settled and happy enough now (albeit dull) when I was younger it was chaotic and very dysfunctional. Perhaps most relationships are formed in younger years?

Snotgobbler99 Strewth! what a handle that is but what a lovely story finding someone who has the same interest:)

I'd do the same myself but what with my bulk the Dinosaurus stomp would be more appropriate;!

silverylamp

Right - you've had a lot of very helpful posts here.

However the more I think about it its becoming obvious that there's something that your not or don't want to tell us about perhaps it's buried somewhere in your "chaotic" past as you describe.

At 37 was it?, your not these days anywhere near old or on the shelf far from it as you can see others are the same or similar ages and do form relationships.

OK may not be that easy but it is possible. However something is stopping you but at least you have come here to seek and opinion and that is a good sign it is the first faltering step in the right direction.

You have probably taken this course of action as this forum is in essence anonymous and there's no one on here you know and if they started mocking you or being overtly critical of you you can simply sign off and disappear, thus far it seems that no one has done that everyone has been helpful they all want you to get on with this and get on with your life and find happiness.

Now will you please do this for all of us?

On Monday that's tomorrow, call your GP and ask to see him or her tell them that you think you need some therapeutic help to overcome a personal problem and you'd like to talk, yes just talk to someone experienced in these matters. Your GP won't be critical of you he/she won't mock you say your wasting their time what they will do is point you in the right direction to the help or assistance you need.

Now this may not immediately bring you a host of white knights on their chargers to your door but it will help you to unlock what is holding you back as sure as night follows day there's something there and I bet with the right help it can be overcome.

I know of a group of psychologists who do just this sort of help I know their team leader and they can and do help people with these sort of life problems.
No now don't think that by suggesting this your in anyway mentally ill far from it but there's something there that's holding you back

Now what, just what, do you have to loose to just go and talk to someone in absolute confidence?.

Will you just try please?.

Thank you.

This, I was going to say this too.:
Self-fulfilling prophesy then. You have decided you are past it. So no, it won't happen for you as you are closed to the possibility. You don't want suggestions of where you went wrong, or how to change things, you want to wallow and for others to join in your pity party

Also agree with this:
I suspect that you want really wanted from this thread for people to say, "Oh, yes you're obviously too unattractive to get anyone, it's a terrible shame". Then you can feel sorry for yourself and have a little private cry but also feel reassured that you're just destined to be sad and unfulfilled and there's nothing you can do about it. If you take on board any of the advice you've been given then you would have to do something about your situation and that's what your depression is completely resistant to

You need to go and see your GP and get help. Love yourself enough to take that first step. Stop playing the martyr, it's only yourself you're hurting.

I agree the OP has has lots of helpful posts.

Doesn't seem able to take them on board though.

I know of someone who didn’t have a boyfriend until her 40’s. It wasn’t that she didn’t try it just didn’t happen. She’s now happily married to him and a mum so don’t give up hope.