To make them pay?

[SpecialKt]

Dd is having a meal out with around 15 friends x they're all aged between 14 & 16 . Aibu to make them pay for their own meals or do I pay since it's dds meal ?

I've paid for birthday meals out before but that wasn't for 15 teenagers !

Hmm. Maybe give them so much per head towards it?

If the friends have been invited out to share a birthday meal with your DD, then you should pay.....

I think it would be weird if they didn't pay.

Just make sure she tells them they need to, before they accept.

You pay, it’s not like they are adults earning their own money.

Depends whether you invited them or they organised it themselves.

This is something you should have already thought about before inviting them

No, make them pay for their own. Just make sure they all know this before the evening in question so they know how much money to bring.

It's something they organised together as a 'good luck meal' for Dd

They're children. Do you charge them £1.50 if they come over for tea?

They're teenagers.

Aren't these things normally arranged amongst themselves in Whatsapp groups?

My son is 14 and whenever he's gone along to something like this, they all just pay for themselves.

So if they organised it, they must have decided how ota going to be paid for.

Or did no one in the bunch of teenagers consider that?

I would be pissed off if dss friends arranged a party for her on the assumption i would pay.

Dds not dss

No , like I said . I've paid in the past . Dd just causually mentioned it to me now. 'Oh , by the way mum , the girls have all planned to go out for a meal in 3 weeks to wish me luck '

If they organised it surely the must be expecting to pay. You could offer £30 as a one off contribution I suppose.

If they organised it, they should be paying for it.

Which her luck for what?

Dd did ask if they were paying separately , it wasn't her idea but the only reply she's got back is 'don't know, it's you're meal' so now I'm not sure if I pay or they all pay themselves

Then she needs to message 'i havent organised it. So whats happening?'

If they organised it between them it would not enter my head to pay.

They've organised it - you don't pay. Could put some cash in if you wanted, but don't think it's essential.

If THEY organised it, THEY pay.

If YOU organised it, YOU pay

Cheeky little gits organising a meal and expecting you to pay up for it!

Yes she needs to clarify asap

Have her text back. "Everyone can just pay their own then. That's fairest". If you are feeling nice maybe organise a special desert or something with the restaurant.

I think we need a bit more information, if the meal has been organised a without your involvement to wish your dd good luck why would you think you should pay?

Unless there's more to it I don't see the issue or do you always pay for everyone's night out?

I'd probably give so much per head and if they want more expensive stuff the make up the difference. Having seen some of the pocket money threads on here it's not unusual for kids that age to be on £15 a month, which won't go far.